Comments on: The Projection

By: Taylor

Taylor — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 21:24:57 +0000

Thanks so much Chrissy, Bex, Kristi, and Erin.

So many wise and articulate words.

Kristi, I have many things to say in response to your question, and so instead of writing the longest post ever (LOL), I wrote an article answering your question. It’s called The Best Day Ever, and will be up not this Monday but the Monday after (Monday June 29th).

So stay tuned Super-mom!

Namaste!

Taylor

By: Erin Quillman

Erin Quillman — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 17:27:13 +0000

Hi Taylor!

Namaste from Illinois! I’m not a mom at the present time but I sometimes read your Monday updates. I love this one and really connect with it. I sometimes feel that “projection” and I, too, made a choice a couple years ago to let go of the pain and hurt from the past and live joyfully. I find myself sensing, at times, that other people think that I have never had any problems and I was just born lucky and have never suffered. Of course, that is very far from the truth. Like you, the actual details of the “trauma(s)” that makes this assumption incorrect no longer matter to me. What matters is that I have let them go.

Interestingly, my shift first began (very slowly) when Jene Rossi opened her studio in West Newton, which, at the time, was just 3 houses away from where I lived…so naturally, I checked it out). It seemed that every class I took, she would read from Nelson Mandela’s 1997 Inaugural speech during the rest at the end of the practice.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you.

We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us: It is in everyone.

And, as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

It took me several years to “let go” but this particular reading is something that I found so incredibly encouraging. I have found myself going back to it and re-reading it and passing it on to others many times. It helps me to live joyfully and not “shrink”…but to also relate to others with love even during those times when I sense the “projection.” And, just like Nelson Mandela says, as I have been liberated from my own fear, my presence (I hope) automatically liberates others.

So…thank you, Taylor, for your honesty and openness and for all that you share with the world. Rock on, sister! Namaste!

Erin Quillman

By: Kristi

Kristi — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 16:49:24 +0000

Hi Taylor– I love your blog, and look forward to reading it every “Mumday”…my word for my day off from work spent with my daughter. I am curious about your path to this bright shiny lightness that you seem to radiate, and I would love if you would share some of this in your blog/posts. In general I am a happy person, but I would love to radiate more light more often. I think I speak for many out here who may not be ready to ask, but how do you honestly and truely have “the best day ever” every day? I guess I just don’t fully understand that. I understand that there is a choice with every situation with which we are faced in how we react to that situation. Do you have any tips for us on how to make a practice of making the brighter choice every time? And how to make every day– even those when we don’t feel great, when our patience isn’t at its strongest, etc.– the best day ever? thanks!

By: bex

bex — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 15:32:27 +0000

Very true, difficult times seem to bring forward the realization of how much support we have, even in places we didn’t know it existed. I think it’s god’s way of getting us through these moments and helping to hold us up.

It’s the tough times that help us appreciate the joys that much more!

So have the best day ever! ;0)

By: chrissy

chrissy — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 13:05:32 +0000

I loved this article!
Sometimes it is so easy to close your mind (and your heart), and to see others through your own truth ( I always tell my kids to look into someone’s eyes…to really look, and in doing so you will not be able to be unkind or judgemental because what you see in those eyes may surprise you)…this was a great reminder that happiness is a choice (and by choice I mean you find it in any modality, whether it be through yoga, prayer, counseling, whatever works:). There will always be tough days but for me, I have learned to honor those days, and to be patient with myself…to grieve for the things that I was not chosen to have, but not to grieve too hard lest I miss the celebration of the radiant life that I am so lucky to have!
I think that adversity chooses people by no mistake, however what we do with our life’s lessons is a choice. It takes pain, sadness, accountability, and reflection to be able to feel true joy, peace and light. Just knowing this provides so much hope and faith.
I think that when people write off someone who they think “has it made”, they are selling themselves short…I feel badly that it took a horrible life event for people to be able to open up to the idea that you are in fact, human, but good for you for taking the good and for writing this reminder that we are all here to be happy, and that you truly can rewrite past patterns and make better decisions!