The Overscheduled 5 year-old
One of our Prana Power Yoga students came in for class and explained that before she left for yoga her 5 year-old daughter cried in the car and told her that she felt “over-scheduled” (the 5 year-old used those words).
Our Super-mom student was feeling really guilty.
How is it that as Super-moms we do everything we possibly can to be the best Mom ever for our kids; and yet, we still at times end up feeling guilty?
Well first of all, Super-people, guilt is the dark side. It zaps creative, divine energy. And you KNOW you gotta keep that creative, divine energy moving from your root to your crown chakra to feel the best ever moment to moment.
So we gotta keep the guilt at a minimum.
Our Super-mom student had obviously scheduled many things for her daughter because she felt that this would make her happy—bring her joy.
I’m pretty sure she was not hoping for the “over-scheduled comment.”
So what’s a Super-mom to do?
I remember when my now 13 year-old was a toddler and Girl, it wasn’t pretty (LOL).
Mostly for Super-mom.
I schlepped that kid here and there and back here again to take her to the “best” (whatever that means) classes, and it was exhausting for both Madison and Mom.
I still laugh when I think of me pulling a perfectly content and happy child away from whatever she was doing at home (playing independently with blocks or whatever) to “go have fun” at ballet or Gymboree or gymnastics or music or whatever.
“C’mon honey! Time for (insert class here)! Time to go have fun!”
Hey, Super-mom, she’s HAVING fun. Leave her alone!
This is why I created PRANA KIDS at Prana Power Yoga.
A Zen kids activity/class that you don’t have to commit to or sign up for in any way, shape, or form.
If your kid’s in the mood to do some asana, bring her/him on over for class—and you can practice at the same time too! (Our PRANA KIDS classes run concurrently with our Adult Hour of Power classes—see you there!).
I know what it’s like to commit to 12 weeks of this or that, pay the tuition, and then have to pry your child away from whatever she’s doing to “go have fun.”
So back to “what’s a Super-mom to do?”…my humble suggestion after having five kids and going through the over-scheduled thing with my first, is to take it slow and listen to what your child wants –not what you think she/he “should” do or rather, deep down, what your guilt says you “should” be doing for her/him.
I know that sometimes kids think that they know what they want and they really “don’t,” and it’s our job as Super-parents to set the boundary (hellloooww, cotton candy for breakfast, lunch, and dinner—LOL), so it’s subtle, and a fine line, Super-people.
And I am not giving “the” prescription for absolutely no guilt and/or hectic transitional moments in your day—Girl, you know me better than that.
What I AM saying is that the more you tune in—to your own heart and intuition—the more you’ll be able to tune into your child’s, and know how their life will feel most balanced–today. Balanced with structure, with classes, with activities, with down time, with completely free time during which you can both just go with the flow.
There IS no “prescription.”
Except to listen from within in each and every moment.
And cut yourself some slack.
You’re doing the best you can, moment-to-moment, with breath, and that’s all you can do Sister.
And imparting this way of being upon your child is one of the biggest gifts you can give him/her.
Besides the new IPOD touch.