This is a big SHOUT OUT to all you “Bosses” out there.
Now wait a minute, Super-people, hear me out.
And remember, the “Boss” is not what he/she seems and many, many of you are actually “Bosses” in your own right, since there are bosses in many realms on this planet (hellowww, every parent out there is a “Boss” all day every day and so I’m talkin’ to you, too!).
A dear friend of mine closed her two Raw Vegan restaurants about six months ago because she was tired of being “The Boss.”
“I’m just not a boss, Taylor,” she explained. “It’s not my personality.”
We are very close and have talked a great deal about her experience of having the restaurants and ultimately closing them, and why her Spirit drew these experiences to her. These heart-to-heart talks coupled with my own experiences owning a Raw Vegan restaurant (eatatprana.com), four Prana Power Yoga Centers (pranapoweryoga.com), and a Consulting Business (super-mom.com/super-consulting), has helped me to REALLY understand why she closed her restaurants.
Philippe and I have 73 people working for us currently. Writing that seems odd since I have never felt like a “boss,” nor have never referred to myself or Philippe as such.
I just do my thang and spread the light and listen to The Universe’s cues. All of my “orders” come straight from The Universe. There have been times that people close to me have warned me, “Ohhhhh, Don’t do that! Don’t open that! Don’t write that!” and I’ve done so anyhow because my Spirit has guided me to do so…and girllll, I always listen to my Spirit. And it’s always turned out good. Real good.
When I’m operating from love—not fear—I’m always operating for the highest good of all. Period. Even if, in the moment, it may not seem that way.
Even if, in the moment, other people create drama.
This brings me back to “The Boss issue.”
I’ve had my share of bosses who I didn’t like. I had one boss fire me (on email) for asking for a paycheck that was 6 weeks overdue.
But the thing is, now, and only now, I understand where all my bosses from years past were coming from. I understand what they were doing. I understand why they were doing it. And I feel for them, actually. Even if perhaps their path and/or “methods” aren’t ones that I would personally choose.
Remember Super-people, everyone has their story, and everyone has a reason for their behavior.
Practicing yoga on and off your mat means cultivating compassion. You are able to be non-reactive and step back and know where someone else is coming from, even if you have very different ideas about the world and/or a very different experience of any given situation.
From time to time shifts happen in our Yoga Studios and/or Restaurant. They’re energetic and then they manifest in the physical. Said another way, there is an energetic shift, and then change happens. At times there is resistance around these shifts, even though they ultimately happen for the highest good of all.
From a metaphysical standpoint, I’m down with this—no problem.
From the standpoint of my mind—my ego—from that part of me that loves to be liked and loved and please everyone, it’s, well, a bit more challenging.
So when these shifts happen and my mind (unsuccessfully) attempts to explain “our truth” as “the Boss,” paddling seriously upstream as I do so, I find my vibration in the dumpster, my stress and anxiety levels at an all-time high, and, well, my Spirit not able to enjoy the best day ever everyday—or any day.
And that ain’t good.
For moments I come back to my center, to our truth, to joy, to light, to the flow and the Vortex…but the my mind/ego inevitably draws me back to ANY thought of the “shift,” and my heart and stomach drop, and with them, my energy and vibration.
And girl, if you know even a little bit about me, low energy and low vibration ain’t my thang.
My Spirit begins to suffocate from all the heaviness and my heart feels heavy.
Then The Universe steps in.
Most recently, “out of the blue” (in quotations because there’s no such thing, in this humble Supermom’s opinion), The Universe brought me my dear friend, at the most incredibly synchronistic time ever.
She, who had stepped OUT of the boss roll for precisely the reason my Spirit was feeling suffocated and out of the Vortex, stepped in and UP with the support, the word, the truth that set my Spirit free.
Here’s part of what she wrote to me (in addition to many long heart and Spirit-filled conversations):
“It’s so hurtful when this stuff happens. When I started to feel like my life was getting too big, I used to say to my friend, maybe I should retreat, etc., but I needed to learn some lessons from it before getting bigger. I needed to learn how to protect myself (mentally from people wanting too much of me). It was a hard lesson because I don’t like to say no and I don’t like to disappoint. I needed to learn how much I was willing to give up to go towards what I really wanted, and mostly it was time to redefine what I really wanted. I’m still learning what it means. My first thought is ALWAYS why am I creating this. Because I know that I absolutely create everything in my life without exception. But just remember sometimes we aren’t supposed to see it all yet. Sometimes our higher selves know that we don’t need to know the meaning of it all immediately because if we did know the reality of how beautiful our futures are–the reality of how big they are would scare us. Just remember that your light is so bright. Sometimes the only way others know how to make themselves feel better is to try to dim your light. Go towards your destiny and know you are loved!”
I loved what she wrote so much that I read it several times, and copied it to put in this article.
And when I lose my footing at times, I go back and read the words that I could’ve written myself, if I were grounded at the time, but are so beautiful because they came to me from someone else—my Sister-in-raw.
So to all you bosses out there…rock on. I know you’re doing your best, with breath. I know it’s challenging to make decisions for the highest good of all and that also rock people’s worlds in that moment and cause you to be, errrr, not the most popular person ever.
I know it’s challenging to constantly keep things in line—put yo foot down—be the calm, grounded, focused, fair, loving, kind, supportive, wise, compassionate, efficient foundation on which your staff and creation (Family? Restaurant? Company? Yoga studio? Financial Institution? Non-profit Organization?) grows and evolves.
I’m here with ya.
And I’m sending you light.