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When my 13 year-old, Madison, was a toddler, I said to her over and over again as she ate her snacks and meals, “Bottom in the chair!” And over and over again, she’d pop out of her chair and start moving about, busy as all little toddlers are.   With Sagey, now six, the same

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March 10, 2011:  Sage:  “If you think about it, everything is day, there is no night.  A day has 24 hours.  It goes from 12am to 12am.  So even at 9, it is still the same day.  It’s not night.”   March 8, 2011:  Phoenix to me, “You’re my best friend.  And I everyone best

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ABC News has Moms testing products for them on air.  Brilliant!  About time we ask the people who actually buy and use the products if they’re worth the dough.   One thing they tested, and unanimously loved was the “new wave oven.”  You heard me right, not “micro” but “new” wave.  It cooks stuff…real fast.

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A reader wrote this comment:   “Just finished reading the nine-part series in the Herald. Wow. Big changes. And, as someone who inhabited the same prison, for almost a decade, and who ever since has refused to assign labels to my eating (if pressed, I’ll say “plant-centric, planet friendly” but there’s no “no” list), I

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Last week I wrote about laughter.  There’s more to the story.   So read “laughter” first from last week if ya haven’t already, and then read this.   We made it to Newton Centre and bam!  The cupcake making place was….closed.  Outta business. We all stood there, with mouths wide open.   “It only just

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I was walking to Newton Centre with my four youngest kids, on a mission to make cupcakes. There’s a place there where you can make your own!  Plus they sell a buncha cupcake paraphernalia that Supermom just loves. I’ve loved cupcakes–the visual, not so much the taste–for as long as I can remember.  It’s a

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Funniest Quotes so far from The 5 Wells Kids:     January 9, 2011: It’s Super-mom’s last day of the Prana Cleanse.  She’s very hungry since she’s had only green juice for four days and is nursing the twins. Sagey says, “If I were doing the Cleanse, I would take two sips.  That would be

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It was a big day today. Our twins started preschool.   I remember when Madison, now 14, started at JAMS, the toddler preschool in Waban, Mass where we’ve sent all 5 of our kiddos.  It really seems like yesterday.  I’ve heard it said that the days are long but the years are short…but my days

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A reader wrote this:   “Hi Taylor – Loving the latest posts, both on Best Life Ever and Super Mom!  Two questions – has Philippe also relinquished the raw vegan approach?  I ask because my partner and I have vastly different eating habits – I’m a salad/veggie/tofu kind of girl and he’s a steak bomb

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I received this sweet email from a reader: “Taylor,   We haven’t met, but this thanksgiving I am thankful for you!  I am a regular reader of Supermom (best part of a Monday) and now your “best life ever” blog on the herald site. I am a mother of 2 sweet little boys (ages 3

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Super-mom Susan Tordella:

 

Every mom is a super mom because being a mom requires learning how to put other people’s needs ahead of our own, and management skills – of our emotions, of other people, and of a home.

My four kids were born in seven years by the time I was 29 years old. This was a blessing and a challenge. After having three children in three and a half years, I realized two things: to surrender to their needs because we were outnumbered; and to get help through parenting groups.

My children have given me so many gifts that I feel privileged to be their mother. Even though raising our kids required a lot of work, time and money, the rewards are worth it.

The most valuable gift they gave me was to learn patience, to slow down and wait for them to learn. They were so patient with me while I learned parenting skills – how to set reasonable boundaries with them and be kind, firm and consistent. The journey was never smooth or straight. How boring would that be!?

Even though sometimes motherhood was overwhelming, I cherish the days I spent doing things together as a family – cooking, eating and cleaning up together; going places – as simple as taking walks or going to the pool; doing crafts and chores – yes, even chores; reading and playing together on a regular day; supporting each other; laughing and telling stories.

I did my best to love and support my children through every stage. I strived to be the best mother possible, which meant forgiving myself and them for being human. My goal was that they grow up strong and independent, able to love and be loved, to make good decisions, and to want to have a relationship with me. After age 18, it’s optional to have a relationship with parents.

Mine have chosen to have relationships with me now that they’re ages 23 to 30. They are still the most important thing in my life. They have given me a focus – to raise them, to learn positive parenting skills, and to share what I learned with other parents.

While my kids were growing up, I attended parenting support groups and then led them – following the saying, “You teach what you most need to know.” In 2010 I wrote a book on how chores teach the priceless gift of self-discipline. Learning to manage my children and sustain a positive relationship with them required me to learn the skills of a CEO – with a kind heart, a generous wallet and coaching them to believe, “You can do it.”

We taught each other, “You can do it.” Now I teach parents “You can do it.” Raising them has been the most instructive, challenging, rewarding, and fun task of my life, with the longest lasting consequences. We do give our kids roots and wings. It requires careful tending of the soil, with water, sun, and community, followed by the perilous journey of learning to fly. What an adventure.

 

 

 

 

Susan Tordella

Egg-ducator

K-12 Bullying awareness & prevention

www.fowlbehavior.net