Learning From Contrast
When Philippe and I opened our first Prana Power Yoga Center in 2002 we taught every single class.
In fact, for the first year, we taught every class, checked in students, bought the toilet paper for the bathroom, mopped the floors—you name it, if it needed to be done, we did it.
“Wow, this must be really hard on you guys,” people would say to us, about just the two of us opening a Yoga Center.
Again and again, we’d answer, “No, it’s not hard. It’s what we love. It’s what we live. And it’s a joy to bring it to others.”
We were very blessed that Prana did really well from day one, and as more students came to us, we added more classes.
Within a year, as our class schedule became more abundant, teaching all of the classes ourselves became more challenging.
Many teachers came to us to teach at Prana, but no one felt right. No one had the Prana energy.
So we decided to handpick a few students who had the high vibration we were looking for, and train them (for free) to teach at Prana.
We began training them every Tuesday night for 3-4 hours.
In about 6 months, one of our “trainees” was ready to teach her own class at Prana. And with time and practice, the others followed suit, and we eventually had a fabulous staff of Prana teachers to help us spread the light.
Around this time, I took off for the Berkshires to train for a week with a well-known yoga instructor. Philippe and I are very into growth and transformation and learning, and something told me to apply to this training.
In retrospect, I know that it was my Spirit who “told me” to apply to the training, but not for the reasons my mental body deduced. Not because I’d learn more about teaching yoga, but because I’d learn about how NOT to train students to teach yoga, and from that knowledge, create the best Prana Teacher Training Program ever.
Remember, Super-people, it is from contrast in our lives (what we DON’T want) that we learn what we DO want to create.
I showed up at 7am the first morning of the training to a cold room filled with eager yogis, and the instructor immediately asked us to go into a backbend—before we were warm.
I had a very serious back injury at a young age (which yoga healed for the most part, as long as I practice daily and I warm up my body before I go into intense poses like back bends), and I know my limits.
So I “just said no” to a backbend without warming up.
The instructor was not pleased.
“It’s good to injure your body,” he said. “It shows you where you have weak points.”
(Please note that I am not exaggerating. He actually said these exact words.)
“Thanks, but no thanks,” I thought. “I’ll take a pass on injuring my body on purpose. And, from now on, I’m going to wake up at 5am and practice before I get here.”
And so I did, from the next morning on. I cranked the heat in my hotel room as high as it would go and practicing a full Prana Power Yoga flow at 5am, before I stepped foot into that teacher training for the day.
The instructor criticized me that second morning, too.
This time, for practicing before the training.
“I can tell that you’ve practiced already this morning,” he said. “I told you that it’s a good idea to see where your body is weak.”
I knew it not the best idea to argue with this guy—he was too full of ego and himself and there’d be no “winning” this argument—but I couldn’t help myself. My Spirit is way too strong.
“I KNOW where my body is weak,” I said confidently. “That became quite clear when I severely injured it at a young age playing tennis. I practice yoga to feel the best ever and to heal, not to injure myself. And I’m not going to be bullied out of practicing in the morning before I come here. That’s my choice.”
The instructor was not pleased. He went on to taunt and make fun of my “logic” in front of the other students.
I felt angry and humiliated and wanted to walk out, but stood my ground. I paid for a week of training with this guy, and I was going to stick around and learn something.
Learn I did.
I learned that in our Prana Power Yoga Teacher Training that Philippe and I would create and offer to those magnetized to us, we would treat the trainees with love and respect, unlike what this “famous” yogi did.
I learned that in a yoga teacher training program, it’s important to actually teach your trainees to teach yoga and to do so it’s essential to create time and space for them to practice teaching yoga, real-time!
Yes, during 7 days of training with this teacher, only 2 out of 50 students actually taught yoga.
I later learned that those 2 students were his (secret) girlfriend and her business partner.
I learned that it’s important to include many aspects of the yoga tradition in a training program and various modalities—not just get up on a soap box and talk the whole time about yourself and how you teach yoga.
And so we incorporated many modalities in our Training Program and brought in other people besides Philippe and me to teach some of the different modalities, so that our trainees could learn from many people with many different styles.
I learned that yoga and teaching yoga should be made accessible to people, not the opposite.
I learned that just because you’re “famous” doesn’t mean you are good at what you do, or are a nice person with integrity.
Not that there’s anything wrong with being famous, Super-people.
Bring on the abundance!
But serve it up without the ego and criticism and elitism.
The world has enough of that, and that’s not yoga.


March 15th, 2010 at 6:23 am
AWWWW!!! Man! What a yucky way for that instructor to behave! I would say that he should be ashamed of himself, however would that even matter? You were VERY wise to stand your ground. While sometimes arguments do fall on deaf ears, we need to be strong, just for us! In doing so you walked away from that situation with the freedom of knowing that you did your best in that moment. Had you not stood up for yourself you would have been “stuck” by that week with Captain Yoga!
The only times that I wish needlessly that I handled a situation better is when I chose not to listen to my gut…yup, not being a fan fave IS uncomfortable at times, but it is far better than weeks of rumination!
**P.S. is it a little wrong that I want to go back in time and kick his butt for being mean????
March 15th, 2010 at 8:53 am
A quick shout out from someone who completed Prana’s Teacher Training program in 2009 — best experience of my life! Part of the reason I was drawn to Prana over all the other trainings in the area was that I knew I wanted to teach. Like Taylor said, Prana teaches you how to teach from day one, using a totally holistic approach. Loved it and I think it made me a much better teacher than I could have been otherwise. Prana’s teacher training put my on the path to be a lifelong student of the practice.
Big fan here! Thank you for the best experience.
March 15th, 2010 at 12:07 pm
I like this story. Remember to stick to your guts..it’s important for someone like me, for example. We can be ourselves, no matter where we are. Someone else’s expactations don’t have to run the show. We can satisfy ourselves, and essentially not mind others’ satisfaction. Recently I’ve realized how imperfect most of us, ok all of us, actually are. Looking at people’s strengths, giving others the space to be right, for me, also would lead to the thought that others are better than me. But really, there aren’t lists making so and so better than others, or worse than. I realize i am not worse than someone, and someone is not better than me. And anyway, a story like this I like because it reminds me that I am not here to do whatever is told by others, I am really here to listen to myself and give my own desires and instinct and intuition and skills and knowledge the charge to move on with confidence. So I i am not certain this is a cohesive reply, but basically, the message of listening to yourself is something I have been carrying with me the last couple of days.
Sometimes we want people to like us, or we may not want to disagree with someone, however, I have noticed that it is actually easier in the long run to listen to yourself and to simply (usually) say what u really feel or think (sometimes, like with me, I lack the grace needed to say what I thin, well gracefull, but STILL it’s better to come out and say it, and then get some grace or calm into the conversation directly following). It can lead to understanding between friends, and it can lead to divisions between you and others…but these divisions may exist and if they exist in the mind or the heart, then really they are free to exist in the reality of our interactions in the world.
To me, this is a terrority I am beginning to hike, and I like it a lot. I just wanted to let all know how this kind of a story is integrated currently in my life.