I was talking with a Super-mom yesterday about what I think it means to be a “Super-mom.”
She read my book and reads my blogs and was telling me that she often feels resentful, and when she feels resentful, she finds it difficult to smile and be affectionate with her kids and enjoy the moment. (Understandable.).
I asked her why she feels resentful and she said it’s because she’s always doing everything for everyone.
“And why you doin’ THAT?” I asked.
“Well, to be ‘Super-mom,’” she explained.
Whoa. Wait a minute. Hold the phone my Sisters. I don’t define “Super-mom” as a Sister who does everything for everyone (and is ” a doormat” as she said she sometimes is).
No no no nooooo.
That’s a fast track to resentment and physical ailments (hello headaches) and serious imbalance.
What we are striving for here people is BALANCE in all things. This includes relationships and giving and receiving and food and exercise and alcohol and drugs (well, they are legal in some states, as evidenced by the bongs I noticed on people’s patio tables while on my book tour in Seattle).
But I digress.
Giving is good.
Being of service is good.
Being resentful ain’t.
Resentment is is your emotional guidance system saying oops, you’ve gone too far. Time to teach ‘em to put their own dishes in the dishwasher. (Yeah, it takes more time and energy in the moment but in the long run its sooooo much better for them and you and the world. Empowerment is where it’s at. And if I had a nickel for every kiddo who’s come to my house on a play date and expects me to wait on ‘em hand and foot and don’t know how to put their dishes in the dishwasher….)
Here’s my definition of Super-mom. (As always, just my humble opinion and take what you want and leave the rest):
-You do your best with breath.
-You show up for your kids, day in and day out.
-You say sorry and begin again.
-When it don’t go as you’d hoped, you say aloud, “Note to self: then fill in the blank with how you hope to do it differently next time.”
-When you do the above, you do so with lightness. and then you let it go and move on. As opposed to beating the **** outta yourself emotionally.
-You take time every single day for yourself to do something that you love which puts you in alignment. This is your “yoga.” It could be biking, baking, gardening, taking a bath, reading, running–whatever floats your boat. I like yoga and cardio. I do them everyday because I’m inspired to do so. They make my heart sing (as opposed to being motivated to do so. Inspiration and motivation are very different animals).
-You say no.
-You say yes.
-You teach, day in and day out.
-You recognize a teaching moment.
-You are open to all teachings from others– especially your biggest teachers (your children).
-You believe in abundance.
-You recognize that your kids are always watching you and imitating you.
-You understand and live as though there are no mistakes and no such thing as perfect. Just a path and learning and growth.
I’m rootin’ for ya, Super-mom!
Have the best day ever!
Taylor plus 5
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