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“When we are judging everything, we are learning nothing.”

Steve Maraboli
 

“Judgment is a negative frequency.”

Stephen Richards
 

“Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping them up.”

– Jesse Jackson
 

“You did then what you knew how to do, and when you knew better you did better.”

– Maya Angelou
 

I write for the media but don’t read it much.  Almost 15 years ago when my first child was born I chose to go on a “media fast” to do away with all of the negative thoughts and images that the media (can) put into our minds.  I did this for my child and I haven’t looked back.

Now some 15 years later I write for the media, but on my terms.  I only write from inspiration and do so to spread the LIGHT, LOVE, and PRANA.  Period.  I told them this day one.  And they were and are down with it.

I did read some media, however, about the recent Kennedy tragedy since one of my close friends from college is close with Bobby and was close with Mary as well.  We were actually supposed to go to Hyannis Port  over Memorial Day weekend after our 25th Brown Reunion, and chose not to under the circumstances.

As I was reading some press, someone was quoted as saying that Mary “was a great Mom.  She was always at her daughter’s games.  She wasn’t one of those Moms on her iPhone.”

Okay, so here’s where I gotta step in.  Why do we have to praise one Super-mom at the expense of another?  Do we really need to bash one Super-mom to give kudos to another?  Why is a Super-mom on her iPhone a bad thing?  What if she’s texting one of her other children, who was trying to reach her?  What if she is emailing an important document for work that had a deadline and thanks to Steve Jobs she was able to meet the deadline, watch the game, be there for her daughter, AND pay the rent?  What if she’s returning a text or call from a friend or family member in need?

Here’s my humble opinion, and my intention for creating this blog on Mother’s Day four years ago.  As always, please take what you want and leave the rest.  Let’s support each other, Sisters, not bash the **** out of each other.  Let’s create a Super-mom community that celebrates each other and our differences and gives a shout out to each of our Sisters for doing her best with breath.  Let’s check judgment at the door.  Let’s lead with our hearts, not our fangs.

Lemme tell ya somethin.  That Sister (on her iPhone or whatever) has a story you know nothing about.  Cut her some slack.

Instead of criticizing, tell a story today that feels good and let this be your mantra, “Today I will give more and feel more joy than yesterday.”

 

Sending healing light, love, and reiki to the family and friends of Mary Kennedy, especially her four children.

 

Namaste,

 

Taylor Wells

 

 

 

 

“People learn something every day, and a lot of times it’s that what they learned the day before was wrong.”

Bill Vaughan
 

“In learning you will teach, and in teaching you will learn.”

Phil Collins
 

“Change is the end result of all true learning.”

Leo Buscaglia
 

“That is what learning is. You suddenly understand something you’ve understood all your life, but in a new way.”

Doris Lessing
 

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”

Elisabeth Kubler-Ros
 

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Super-Mom Betsy Parsons:

I expected motherhood to change me.  How could it not?  Everything was new.  But what I didn’t expect was that motherhood would strip me bare – drop me to rock bottom – force me to face that I had lost myself – demand that I pick up the shattered bits of me and piece myself back together.  It was all at once brutal and gratifying.  I am grateful for all of it.  I have learned who I am and how great my support system is.  I learned how absolutely wonderful my husband is, what a fantastic dad he is, and what a loving and supportive family surround us.  It’s not just me who is a super mom.  It’s my husband, my mom and dad, and my mother and father-in-law who make up this super family.  Each one of us plays an important role. Life is a tremendous gift, and we were all starkly reminded of that during the first six weeks of my daughter’s life. We almost lost her.  The first six weeks of her life were spent in the NICU.  She was a full term baby but a very sick one.  After she came home, every milestone was carefully watched.   She thrived.  And I almost missed it because I was worried about what could be wrong.  It was 9 months later when I started to splinter apart.  She was walking and I was cracking – emotions needed to be expressed.  I needed to feel again.  Not surprising, but I hadn’t been taking care of myself.  I was just trying to make it through a minute, then an hour, and a full day.  I wasn’t taking care of myself.  I wasn’t sleeping well.  I was sleepwalking.  I rationalized that all of this was well within a first-time mom response (ha!).   Eventually, I was diagnosed with PTSD and got help.  I began to piece myself back together.  It took another full year for me to hear the stirrings of my voice.  It’s been over two years, and just recently I realized that I am whole again.  I experienced such joy in finding myself.    I had really missed me!  But losing myself and finding an improved version had taken hold – makes me so grateful for the journey.  It has allowed me freedom to be myself, to slow down and enjoy the moments of motherhood, to rely on my family to play significant roles raising my daughter, to trust, and to embrace the unexpected.  It’s often what I need most!  I’m so thankful for my super family – including my husband who is embracing his role as stay-at-home dad!  Collectively, we’re a super team with a super daughter.