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“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.”

Robert Fulghum

When my 13 year-old, Madison, was a toddler, I said to her over and over again as she ate her snacks and meals, “Bottom in the chair!”

And over and over again, she’d pop out of her chair and start moving about, busy as all little toddlers are.

 

With Sagey, now six, the same thing while she was a toddler, “Bottom in the chair, honey!”

 

Yet she’d still get up outta that chair and move about.

 

Phoenix just turned four.  As I was saying this very same phrase to him about a month ago, I noticed, to my surprise, that Super-mom herself was…not eating with HER bottom in the chair.  In fact, (gasp!) I was eating standing up at the counter.

Now I gots five kids Super-people, and so you KNOW why I was standin up.   It was only a matter of seconds before I would need to get up from the chair to get something/help someone/wait on someone, etc.  So why even bother sitting down?

Well!  This is why.

How’s my child ever going to put his/her bottom in the chair and eat sitting down if Mommy is eating standing up?

How did I ever expect my child to do the opposite of what I was doing?  We all know that kids do what we DO, not what we SAY.  ;)

And how on earth did it take me all these years to notice this?

 

HUGE LOL.

That was Super-mom having a good laugh—at herself.

Not with judgment or frustration or even embarrassment (well, maybe just a little).

 

Just a good laugh for laughing’s sake.

How many times have I written or thought or said to walk your talk?

 

More times than I can recall.

Was I walkin my talk at meal and snack time?

 

Not even close.
Can I see this now and admit it and learn from it?
Absolutely!

And share it wit all my Sisters out there, too, because girlfriends, this is how we learn and grow and transform and…have a good laugh.  ;)

 

We all have “that” thing—that thing that is our button or our “blind spot.”  Or, perhaps we have many…but we all got at least one.

So ask yourself right now Sister, “Where am I not walking my talk?  And why?”

And then get quiet and listen.

Awareness is key, and even if you’re super aware, or think you are, there are always places you can learn and grow.  We all can!  And that’s the fun part. The learning, the growing, the transforming.

One way to cultivate the awareness, the open-ness to feedback, the ability to see what you are looking at:  get on your yoga mat.  Often.

One of my very first yoga teachers, now a dear friend, used to say while he taught, “I see what I am looking at.”

For the life of me, I never understood what he meant.

Now I do.  ;)   (Thanks Rolf!)

 

So ask yourself, Super-people, “where am I not walking my talk and why?”

And when the answer comes, and it will, be compassionate and gentle with yourself.  Be kind to you.

 

It’s all just learning.

It’s just the path.

And it’s supposed to be fun.

So lighten up.  Laugh more.  Appreciate more.  All is well.

And get yo’ bottom in the chair the next time you eat.  ;)

 

 

“What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear you speak.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The soul is healed by being with children.”

English proverb

“Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them.”

Lady Bird Johnson

“Only where children gather is there any real chance of fun.”

Mignon McLaughlin

“The potential possibilities of any child are the most intriguing and stimulating in all creation.”

Ray L. Wilbur

“Your children will become what you are; so be what you want them to be.”

David Bly

“If you can give your son or daughter only one gift, let it be enthusiasm.”

Bruce Barton

“The work will wait while you show your child the rainbow, but the rainbow won’t wait while you do the work.”

Patricia Clafford

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Super-mom Kim Cherelli

 

WOW!! Supermom of the month.    I was shocked to say the least when Taylor mentioned she wanted me to be her super mom of the month.  Me?  I never thought there was anything super about me.  I’m as average as average is, nonetheless I was and am honored to be thought of.

 

I met Taylor a year ago during Teacher Training at Prana Power Yoga.  I was instantly drawn to her energy and knew I was in the right place.  I didn’t know why I decided to become a yoga instructor nor did I know what I was getting into.  You see prior to signing up for the 8 week teacher training I think I practiced yoga about a dozen times.  I woke up one day and said “ I think I’d like to be a yoga instructor”  I proceeded to ask my yoga instructor at BSC how one goes about becoming an instructor.  She told me about Prana and here I am a whole year later.  I wasn’t really sure what I was looking for other than the fact I was looking for “something” the something that yoga instructors have.  I’m learning every day and I’m a work in progress but this is a journey and I am excited to see where it takes me.  The teacher training was an emotional and beautiful experience.  As quickly as the thought popped into my head to become a yoga instructor the same happened for my understanding why.  I’m understanding I am where I am suppose to be right now at this moment.  Stress is not as prevalent as before and I’m understanding people a bit better.

 

So, a lil about me.  I’m a single mom of one 18 year old son.  I don’t consider myself any different than the next mother. I never found raising a child difficult because it came naturally to me. .  I raised him simply the way I wanted to be treated.  I always knew I wanted to be a mother. I was 24 when I found out I was pregnant and afraid to tell my mother.  I knew what she would say or better yet the look or her face would tell me how disappointed she was.  Most people know my situation and how my son was the result of an abusive relationship, however I wouldn’t have change a thing.  I had to go through that for my son to be born.  If I didn’t then he wouldn’t have been born and I can’t imagine my life without him.  People congratulate me for being a single mom  my son does too but I don’t think I deserve any special credit.  Putting aside all my heartache and struggles in my life, it’s nothing compared to what some are going through.  I do count my blessings and I feel blessed to have been given this gift of motherhood.  There are those who want children and can’t   I am so very thankful and I can’t say it enough…..It’s truly a blessing.

“where you are at this moment is where you are suppose to be”

Sending love and light to all

Kim Cherelli