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Super-Quote of the Day, Monday January 31, 2011:

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”

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Annie Dillard

One of our Prana Power Yoga students came in for class and explained that before she left for yoga her 5 year-old daughter cried in the car and told her that she felt “over-scheduled” (the 5 year-old used those words).

Our Super-mom student was feeling really guilty.

How is it that as Super-moms we do everything we possibly can to be the best Mom ever for our kids; and yet, we still at times end up feeling guilty?

Well first of all, Super-people, guilt is the dark side. It zaps creative, divine energy. And you KNOW you gotta keep that creative, divine energy moving from your root to your crown chakra to feel the best ever moment to moment.

So we gotta keep the guilt at a minimum.

Our Super-mom student had obviously scheduled many things for her daughter because she felt that this would make her happy—bring her joy.

I’m pretty sure she was not hoping for the “over-scheduled comment.”

So what’s a Super-mom to do?

I remember when my now 13 year-old was a toddler and Girl, it wasn’t pretty (LOL).

Mostly for Super-mom.

I schlepped that kid here and there and back here again to take her to the “best” (whatever that means) classes, and it was exhausting for both Madison and Mom.

I still laugh when I think of me pulling a perfectly content and happy child away from whatever she was doing at home (playing independently with blocks or whatever) to “go have fun” at ballet or Gymboree or gymnastics or music or whatever.

“C’mon honey! Time for (insert class here)! Time to go have fun!”

Hey, Super-mom, she’s HAVING fun. Leave her alone!

LOL.

This is why I created PRANA KIDS at Prana Power Yoga.

A Zen kids activity/class that you don’t have to commit to or sign up for in any way, shape, or form.

If your kid’s in the mood to do some asana, bring her/him on over for class—and you can practice at the same time too! (Our PRANA KIDS classes run concurrently with our Adult Hour of Power classes—see you there!).

I know what it’s like to commit to 12 weeks of this or that, pay the tuition, and then have to pry your child away from whatever she’s doing to “go have fun.”

So back to “what’s a Super-mom to do?”…my humble suggestion after having five kids and going through the over-scheduled thing with my first, is to take it slow and listen to what your child wants –not what you think she/he “should” do or rather, deep down, what your guilt says you “should” be doing for her/him.

I know that sometimes kids think that they know what they want and they really “don’t,” and it’s our job as Super-parents to set the boundary (hellloooww, cotton candy for breakfast, lunch, and dinner—LOL), so it’s subtle, and a fine line, Super-people.

And I am not giving “the” prescription for absolutely no guilt and/or hectic transitional moments in your day—Girl, you know me better than that.

What I AM saying is that the more you tune in—to your own heart and intuition—the more you’ll be able to tune into your child’s, and know how their life will feel most balanced–today. Balanced with structure, with classes, with activities, with down time, with completely free time during which you can both just go with the flow.

There IS no “prescription.”

Except to listen from within in each and every moment.

And cut yourself some slack.

You’re doing the best you can, moment-to-moment, with breath, and that’s all you can do Sister.

And imparting this way of being upon your child is one of the biggest gifts you can give him/her.

Besides the new IPOD touch.

(Kidding!)

“Children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression.”

Dr. Haim Ginott

“Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them.”

Richard L. Evans

“Pretty much all the honest truth-telling there is in the world is done by children.”

Oliver Wendell Holmes

“Our greatest natural resource is the minds of our children.”

Walt Disney

“You know children are growing up when they start asking questions that have answers.”

John J. Plomp

“Your family and your love must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort, and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep any relationship flourishing and growing.”

Jim Rohn

“Allow children to be happy in their own way, for what better way will they find?”

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Samuel Johnson

Funniest Quotes so far from The 5 Wells Kids:

October 6, 2009: Philippe cut himself shaving and Sagey (age 5) says, “Don’t do it on your face, do it on your legs.”

October 28, 2009: Sagey (age 5) (has been running around inside): “I’m really sweaty . . . I’m five feet sweaty.”

October 31, 2009: Sagey (age 5) says, “I’m so excited for Halloween! I can’t wait to trade for TWIGS!” (Twix candy bars)

November 1, 2009: Sagey (age 5): “Can I tell you something? Your Prana Office is a very good learning place.”

November 1, 2009: Sagey (age 5) after Super-mom told her that she did some Christmas shopping online today for Sagey, Phoenix, Madison, and Philippe: “Well, you’re really on the top of it!”

November 8, 2009: Sagey (age 5): while playing outside with Phoenix (age 2) on a gorgeous sunny day: “Phoenix! Less talking, more focus on the slide!”

November 24, 2009: Philippe talking to Madison about her relationship with her boyfriend (she doesn’t have to label it … she should just be with him). Madison: “You don’t really understand what goes on in the head of a 6th grade girl. It’s kind of all about the labels.”

December 8, 2009: Sagey (age 5): “Wait, that’s a complex word, right?”

February 1, 2010: Sagey (age 5) says, “You know the witness center at the Y?” She then explains it is the place with all the exercise equipment.

February 8, 2010: Sagey (age 5) planning the trip to Florida (more than a week away), wants to know if she needs to pack snacks, since they normally serve snacks on the plane: “Only if you’re OK with eating the mainstream food. I’m fine with it.”

February 20, 2010: (during the Disney parade): Sagey (age 6): “Do people in Disney World sometimes get days off? Do they sometimes get to see their family?”

February 20, 2010: Sagey (age 6) when Philippe asked if she felt different now that she turned 6, “For me it takes seriously 40 days to feel the change.”

February 20, 2010: Sagey (age 6) on the last day at Disney: “This is kind of hard, because I really want to stay here, but I really want to see Mama, too. “

February 26, 2010: We are teaching Teacher Training this weekend. We haven’t told Sagey (age 6) because she gets very emotional about it and attached and worries and cries the night before we leave her to teach. But a few times today there have been slips (by Madison and our neighbor), which Super-mom attempted to cover up, but clearly didn’t: Sagey: “Mommy, you know now that I’m 6 now so I won’t be sad about you going to teacher training anymore, so if you’re teaching it tomorrow, you can tell me, OK?”

April 6, 2010: Sagey (age 6) talking to Philippe about the work she needs to do for her book, “You have not written a book. You have no idea what it takes to write a book.”

April 6, 2010: Sagey (age 6) gave Super-mom a book for free and then wanted money for it. “I gave it to you for free . . . and then you pay for it with a credit card. That’s kind of free.”

April 16, 2010: Sagey (age 6) says,” I think I need to let go of these jeans, they are just plain, and they are baggy on me.”

April 16, 2010: Phoenix (age 3) wanting to wear Sagey’s undies, “Those are MY pink undies!”

April 16, 2010: Phoenix (age 3) talking about the twins, “Sagey wants this one (Montana),and I want that one (Dakota).”

April 17, 2010: Sagey (age 6) talking about selecting a font color on google docs to write her book, “I was thinking red, but that didn’t go with the whole story.”

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Super-Mom Betsy Parsons:

I expected motherhood to change me.  How could it not?  Everything was new.  But what I didn’t expect was that motherhood would strip me bare – drop me to rock bottom – force me to face that I had lost myself – demand that I pick up the shattered bits of me and piece myself back together.  It was all at once brutal and gratifying.  I am grateful for all of it.  I have learned who I am and how great my support system is.  I learned how absolutely wonderful my husband is, what a fantastic dad he is, and what a loving and supportive family surround us.  It’s not just me who is a super mom.  It’s my husband, my mom and dad, and my mother and father-in-law who make up this super family.  Each one of us plays an important role. Life is a tremendous gift, and we were all starkly reminded of that during the first six weeks of my daughter’s life. We almost lost her.  The first six weeks of her life were spent in the NICU.  She was a full term baby but a very sick one.  After she came home, every milestone was carefully watched.   She thrived.  And I almost missed it because I was worried about what could be wrong.  It was 9 months later when I started to splinter apart.  She was walking and I was cracking – emotions needed to be expressed.  I needed to feel again.  Not surprising, but I hadn’t been taking care of myself.  I was just trying to make it through a minute, then an hour, and a full day.  I wasn’t taking care of myself.  I wasn’t sleeping well.  I was sleepwalking.  I rationalized that all of this was well within a first-time mom response (ha!).   Eventually, I was diagnosed with PTSD and got help.  I began to piece myself back together.  It took another full year for me to hear the stirrings of my voice.  It’s been over two years, and just recently I realized that I am whole again.  I experienced such joy in finding myself.    I had really missed me!  But losing myself and finding an improved version had taken hold – makes me so grateful for the journey.  It has allowed me freedom to be myself, to slow down and enjoy the moments of motherhood, to rely on my family to play significant roles raising my daughter, to trust, and to embrace the unexpected.  It’s often what I need most!  I’m so thankful for my super family – including my husband who is embracing his role as stay-at-home dad!  Collectively, we’re a super team with a super daughter.