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“Open up to today.”

Lori Deschene

“The key to feeling peace is creating space for it. Give yourself that space by letting go.”

Lori Deschene

“Each day contains limitless possibilities for passion, peace, connection, and joy, but you can only embrace them if you release what you’re clutching–both the good and the bad.”

Lori Deschene

This morning I was determined to finish putting away all of the clothes a friend dropped off for the twins a week ago.

Let me rephrase that: I was determined to do this after nursing the twins and before walking to Prana Newton’s 9:30am class, and that gave me about 20 minutes to do so.

Girlfriend, when I tell you that I didn’t even make a dent in that ginormous bag—and the huge basket of clean laundry that I’ve been cleverly avoiding eye contact with for a few days—I’m not exaggerating.

I laughed to Philippe as I walked out the door, “That project is going to take a few hours! What was I thinking?”

Fast forward to now: I just spent I don’t know how long—wasn’t timing it…it was the amount of time that the twins could hold it together before I put them down for their nap—attempting the same task, and made a dent this time, but am nowhere near finished.

A few things came to mind that I wanted to share with you Super-people.

First of all, can we talk about the abundance we have?!

I’m talking about (not complaining—observing) how long it’s going to take me to put away all of the clothing that has been given to my twins, with love, by a good friend who also has twins.

Helllllooooooo?!

I heard some Super-moms talking about this very subject at PRANA NEWTON a few days ago…they were saying how it can be overwhelming instead of helpful to receive “so much.” That getting a huge bag of hand me downs can feel exhausting.

I hear ya Sisters, oh, do I hear you…but it’s also the best ever.

I feel a metaphor coming on…. ;)

Here it is: as we ask for abundance in our lives, and receive it, with that abundance can come a feeling of overwhelment. I may have just made that word up, and if so, it needed to be created. ?

One of my favorite quotes, that I read frequently, is: “Being overwhelmed means that The Universe is delivering you what you asked for—you’re just not ready to receive it.”

I love this quote (by Abraham-Hicks) because it has the ability to move me out of a frantic, overwhelmed “victim mode” in any situation, and into my power as a Super-mom. It’s a simple shift of perspective, and boom! I’m not overwhelmed anymore, but grateful for the abundance instead. And then I’m able to breathe in and breathe out and take whatever it is one step at a time.

Another thing came to mind as I sorted through onesie after onesie and tee shirt after tee shirt and made a big pile of those things that the twins have outgrown, that I’m passing on to another Super-mom: this is yet another lesson in receiving and letting go.

I receive the abundance of beautiful twin clothes from my friend and I let go of an abundance of beautiful twin clothes that my babies have outgrown.

It’s a flow.

It’s a balance.

You GOTTA let go as you receive, otherwise, there just ain’t no proverbial room “left,” my Sisters.

In your mind, in your body, in your closet, in your home, in your life.

Receive, and let go.

Receive, and let go.

Receive and let go.

Again and again we will go through this process, and as we do so—as we practice this important and essential part of life–we will learn to do so with integrity and grace.

“Each day, accept everything that comes to you as a gift. At night, mentally give it all back. In this way, you become free.”

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Daniel Levin

“We call a child’s mind “small” simply by habit; perhaps it is larger than ours is, for it can take in almost anything without effort.”

Christopher Morley

“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.”

Richard Bach

“A mother understands what a child does not say.”
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”

J.M. Barrie (Peter Pan)

“A new baby is like the beginning of all things-wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities.”

Eda J. Le Shan

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Super-Mom Betsy Parsons:

I expected motherhood to change me.  How could it not?  Everything was new.  But what I didn’t expect was that motherhood would strip me bare – drop me to rock bottom – force me to face that I had lost myself – demand that I pick up the shattered bits of me and piece myself back together.  It was all at once brutal and gratifying.  I am grateful for all of it.  I have learned who I am and how great my support system is.  I learned how absolutely wonderful my husband is, what a fantastic dad he is, and what a loving and supportive family surround us.  It’s not just me who is a super mom.  It’s my husband, my mom and dad, and my mother and father-in-law who make up this super family.  Each one of us plays an important role. Life is a tremendous gift, and we were all starkly reminded of that during the first six weeks of my daughter’s life. We almost lost her.  The first six weeks of her life were spent in the NICU.  She was a full term baby but a very sick one.  After she came home, every milestone was carefully watched.   She thrived.  And I almost missed it because I was worried about what could be wrong.  It was 9 months later when I started to splinter apart.  She was walking and I was cracking – emotions needed to be expressed.  I needed to feel again.  Not surprising, but I hadn’t been taking care of myself.  I was just trying to make it through a minute, then an hour, and a full day.  I wasn’t taking care of myself.  I wasn’t sleeping well.  I was sleepwalking.  I rationalized that all of this was well within a first-time mom response (ha!).   Eventually, I was diagnosed with PTSD and got help.  I began to piece myself back together.  It took another full year for me to hear the stirrings of my voice.  It’s been over two years, and just recently I realized that I am whole again.  I experienced such joy in finding myself.    I had really missed me!  But losing myself and finding an improved version had taken hold – makes me so grateful for the journey.  It has allowed me freedom to be myself, to slow down and enjoy the moments of motherhood, to rely on my family to play significant roles raising my daughter, to trust, and to embrace the unexpected.  It’s often what I need most!  I’m so thankful for my super family – including my husband who is embracing his role as stay-at-home dad!  Collectively, we’re a super team with a super daughter.