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Archive for September, 2010

“Open up to today.”

Lori Deschene

“The key to feeling peace is creating space for it. Give yourself that space by letting go.”

Lori Deschene

“Each day contains limitless possibilities for passion, peace, connection, and joy, but you can only embrace them if you release what you’re clutching–both the good and the bad.”

Lori Deschene

This morning I was determined to finish putting away all of the clothes a friend dropped off for the twins a week ago.

Let me rephrase that: I was determined to do this after nursing the twins and before walking to Prana Newton’s 9:30am class, and that gave me about 20 minutes to do so.

Girlfriend, when I tell you that I didn’t even make a dent in that ginormous bag—and the huge basket of clean laundry that I’ve been cleverly avoiding eye contact with for a few days—I’m not exaggerating.

I laughed to Philippe as I walked out the door, “That project is going to take a few hours! What was I thinking?”

Fast forward to now: I just spent I don’t know how long—wasn’t timing it…it was the amount of time that the twins could hold it together before I put them down for their nap—attempting the same task, and made a dent this time, but am nowhere near finished.

A few things came to mind that I wanted to share with you Super-people.

First of all, can we talk about the abundance we have?!

I’m talking about (not complaining—observing) how long it’s going to take me to put away all of the clothing that has been given to my twins, with love, by a good friend who also has twins.

Helllllooooooo?!

I heard some Super-moms talking about this very subject at PRANA NEWTON a few days ago…they were saying how it can be overwhelming instead of helpful to receive “so much.” That getting a huge bag of hand me downs can feel exhausting.

I hear ya Sisters, oh, do I hear you…but it’s also the best ever.

I feel a metaphor coming on…. ;)

Here it is: as we ask for abundance in our lives, and receive it, with that abundance can come a feeling of overwhelment. I may have just made that word up, and if so, it needed to be created. ☺

One of my favorite quotes, that I read frequently, is: “Being overwhelmed means that The Universe is delivering you what you asked for—you’re just not ready to receive it.”

I love this quote (by Abraham-Hicks) because it has the ability to move me out of a frantic, overwhelmed “victim mode” in any situation, and into my power as a Super-mom. It’s a simple shift of perspective, and boom! I’m not overwhelmed anymore, but grateful for the abundance instead. And then I’m able to breathe in and breathe out and take whatever it is one step at a time.

Another thing came to mind as I sorted through onesie after onesie and tee shirt after tee shirt and made a big pile of those things that the twins have outgrown, that I’m passing on to another Super-mom: this is yet another lesson in receiving and letting go.

I receive the abundance of beautiful twin clothes from my friend and I let go of an abundance of beautiful twin clothes that my babies have outgrown.

It’s a flow.

It’s a balance.

You GOTTA let go as you receive, otherwise, there just ain’t no proverbial room “left,” my Sisters.

In your mind, in your body, in your closet, in your home, in your life.

Receive, and let go.

Receive, and let go.

Receive and let go.

Again and again we will go through this process, and as we do so—as we practice this important and essential part of life–we will learn to do so with integrity and grace.

“Each day, accept everything that comes to you as a gift. At night, mentally give it all back. In this way, you become free.”

Daniel Levin

“We call a child’s mind “small” simply by habit; perhaps it is larger than ours is, for it can take in almost anything without effort.”

Christopher Morley

“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.”

Richard Bach

“A mother understands what a child does not say.”
“When the first baby laughed for the first time, its laugh broke into a thousand pieces, and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies.”

J.M. Barrie (Peter Pan)

“A new baby is like the beginning of all things-wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities.”

Eda J. Le Shan

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Super-mom Susan Tordella:

 

Every mom is a super mom because being a mom requires learning how to put other people’s needs ahead of our own, and management skills – of our emotions, of other people, and of a home.

My four kids were born in seven years by the time I was 29 years old. This was a blessing and a challenge. After having three children in three and a half years, I realized two things: to surrender to their needs because we were outnumbered; and to get help through parenting groups.

My children have given me so many gifts that I feel privileged to be their mother. Even though raising our kids required a lot of work, time and money, the rewards are worth it.

The most valuable gift they gave me was to learn patience, to slow down and wait for them to learn. They were so patient with me while I learned parenting skills – how to set reasonable boundaries with them and be kind, firm and consistent. The journey was never smooth or straight. How boring would that be!?

Even though sometimes motherhood was overwhelming, I cherish the days I spent doing things together as a family – cooking, eating and cleaning up together; going places – as simple as taking walks or going to the pool; doing crafts and chores – yes, even chores; reading and playing together on a regular day; supporting each other; laughing and telling stories.

I did my best to love and support my children through every stage. I strived to be the best mother possible, which meant forgiving myself and them for being human. My goal was that they grow up strong and independent, able to love and be loved, to make good decisions, and to want to have a relationship with me. After age 18, it’s optional to have a relationship with parents.

Mine have chosen to have relationships with me now that they’re ages 23 to 30. They are still the most important thing in my life. They have given me a focus – to raise them, to learn positive parenting skills, and to share what I learned with other parents.

While my kids were growing up, I attended parenting support groups and then led them – following the saying, “You teach what you most need to know.” In 2010 I wrote a book on how chores teach the priceless gift of self-discipline. Learning to manage my children and sustain a positive relationship with them required me to learn the skills of a CEO – with a kind heart, a generous wallet and coaching them to believe, “You can do it.”

We taught each other, “You can do it.” Now I teach parents “You can do it.” Raising them has been the most instructive, challenging, rewarding, and fun task of my life, with the longest lasting consequences. We do give our kids roots and wings. It requires careful tending of the soil, with water, sun, and community, followed by the perilous journey of learning to fly. What an adventure.

 

 

 

 

Susan Tordella

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