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“The only true measure of success is the amountof joy we are feeling.”


“By letting it go, it all gets done.”


Lao Tzu

My Sister and nephews are visiting us from Santa Fe.  I love them so much and it’s amazing and wonderful to have them here, and also a path of learning for Super-mom.

I didn’t think it was possible for anyone (let alone a guest in your house) to do 7 loads of laundry a day.
How is that POSSIBLE?

I have no idea what she’s finding to wash, but Girl, that washer has been going nonstop.

“There’s a lot of inertia going on around here,” quipped Philippe as I said for the umpteenth time “OK, guys, ready to go swimming at the lake?”
This Super-mom likes to MOVE.  I’m all about being centered, in the moment, and yogic, but I’m also about massive action and FUN.

Five kids–two who’re 4 months of age?  No worries—I find a way.
My sister didn’t get the “massive action gene.”  ;)

I’m way more “vata” and she’s more “kapha.” (Check out what these terms mean in Ayurvedic medicine.  Good stuff.  Google it, Super-people.)

So, when my big sister and I are together, it’s pretty funny to witness the flow–or lack thereof.
How could two people so different be related?

Her four food groups are:  doughnuts, chocolate chip cookies, white bread, and butter.

She can’t stand exercise of any kind.  Has never liked it.
I started ice-skating five hours a day when I was five years old.

Yet despite all of our differences, I adore her and love every moment we’re together.
My intention with is to inspire this kind of love, adoration, and support of all Super-people—no matter whether they’re like you or not.  In fact, the world is that much more interesting and fun because we’re all so different.

So during my Sister’s visit, it has become clear to me that my lesson with her and her family is to totally let go, surrender, and paddle downstream.
Attempting to “do anything” or have any “expectations” about our days or “plans” is like “herding cats.”

I had wanted to go to our Prana Power Yoga Cambridge and Prana Power Yoga Winchester Studios to merchandise the PRANA raw vegan foods that we’re now selling; however, after 3 days of striking out in an attempt to make it there, I had clarity.

What became clear is that my path during their visit is to expect very little in the way of doing stuff/going places/etc. (We still haven’t left the house as a group at 3:06pm….I woke up at 5am, nursed, swam a mile in crystal lake, and took the 715am at Prana Newton before anyone woke up, and at this point, it’s pretty clear we ain’t goin’ anywhere today—LOL.)

So I’m surrendered to the process now.  ;)

And once I chose to surrender, and let my PRANA staff know that I’d be out of commission for a bit and why, I got this amazing and poignant email from a dear friend and PRANA teacher, which I read 3x and am now sharing with you:

“I’m glad for you Taylor.  I think the random time you spend with people is the most memorable.  It makes me think of years ago living in Allston in a big house with lots of people. People would move in and out with little fanfare and we never really knew who was actually living there. Anyway, mornings when I woke up and would sit out on our back porch with my friends were the best.  Morning would come and go and we’d be chatting, calling in sick to work and enjoying ourselves.  Now when we manage to get together it always revolves around doing something. We always end up at a loud bar or concert or something.  It makes me miss the time when my friends were just around all the time, and the mornings that turned into all day hang out sessions are what I remember best.  You can’t plan them. They just… happen.”  : )

And I really can’t say it any better than that.

“Maybe part of loving is learning to let go.”

The Wonder Years
“There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”

“Think about any attachments that are depleting your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go.”
Oprah Winfrey
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.”

Joseph Campbell

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
Lao Tzu

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
Chinese Proverb

“Knowledge is learning something every day.

Wisdom is letting go of something every day.”


Zen Proverb

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Super-Mom Betsy Parsons:

I expected motherhood to change me.  How could it not?  Everything was new.  But what I didn’t expect was that motherhood would strip me bare – drop me to rock bottom – force me to face that I had lost myself – demand that I pick up the shattered bits of me and piece myself back together.  It was all at once brutal and gratifying.  I am grateful for all of it.  I have learned who I am and how great my support system is.  I learned how absolutely wonderful my husband is, what a fantastic dad he is, and what a loving and supportive family surround us.  It’s not just me who is a super mom.  It’s my husband, my mom and dad, and my mother and father-in-law who make up this super family.  Each one of us plays an important role. Life is a tremendous gift, and we were all starkly reminded of that during the first six weeks of my daughter’s life. We almost lost her.  The first six weeks of her life were spent in the NICU.  She was a full term baby but a very sick one.  After she came home, every milestone was carefully watched.   She thrived.  And I almost missed it because I was worried about what could be wrong.  It was 9 months later when I started to splinter apart.  She was walking and I was cracking – emotions needed to be expressed.  I needed to feel again.  Not surprising, but I hadn’t been taking care of myself.  I was just trying to make it through a minute, then an hour, and a full day.  I wasn’t taking care of myself.  I wasn’t sleeping well.  I was sleepwalking.  I rationalized that all of this was well within a first-time mom response (ha!).   Eventually, I was diagnosed with PTSD and got help.  I began to piece myself back together.  It took another full year for me to hear the stirrings of my voice.  It’s been over two years, and just recently I realized that I am whole again.  I experienced such joy in finding myself.    I had really missed me!  But losing myself and finding an improved version had taken hold – makes me so grateful for the journey.  It has allowed me freedom to be myself, to slow down and enjoy the moments of motherhood, to rely on my family to play significant roles raising my daughter, to trust, and to embrace the unexpected.  It’s often what I need most!  I’m so thankful for my super family – including my husband who is embracing his role as stay-at-home dad!  Collectively, we’re a super team with a super daughter.