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“If things aren’t going as well as they could be, make an adjustment.”

-Henry Minsky

“You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.”
 

Alan Alda

“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it.
Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books.
Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”

~ Buddha

Life is school. Love is the lesson.

Your joy and success depends on how much negavitivity there is in your mind. If there is little, you will have much fulfillment and you will remember what matters most and live from that. Knowing this, train your mind. Someone else out there is living your dream. It may as well be you!!

“Given another shot at life, I would seize every minute…look at it and really see it…live it…and never give it back.”

-Erma Bombeck

Almost twelve years ago I stopped doing something that changed my life immediately.

I stopped watching TV.

Now hold on there a second, Sister. Hear me out.

I know, I know, many years ago, I would’ve thought the same things…that this was crazy and what’s the point? Almost twelve years ago I would’ve felt deprived and out of sorts if I couldn’t watch my favorite show on Thursday nights (it was on NBC and that’s all I’m saying J).

I had heard of people who didn’t watch TV and even more intense, people who didn’t HAVE a TV and well, I just didn’t understand the appeal.

But something on that day almost twelve years ago said that I was all done. So I stopped cold turkey.

And now when people ask me what I do if I don’t watch TV, what comes to mind is how much they don’t do because they are watching.

I absolutely do not judge anyone for watching TV and I watched myself for many years; however, what I noticed when I did watch TV is how the hours would melt away while I was in an almost unconscious state. I certainly wasn’t awake and aware—which is the state I am striving for through my daily Prana Power Yoga practice, meditation practice, and raw vegan lifestyle.

Watching TV, like any habit, just took a bit of time and practice to kick. And once I had stopped, I was amazed at how I did not miss it. At all.

“Why,” you ask, “would I want to do this? I need my ‘ten minutes’ when I get home from work/school/the gym to chill out and unwind,” you continue.

Well, girl, if it were ten minutes, I’d say go for it, but when have you ever stopped watching TV after ten minutes?

And how many other things could you be doing and enjoying and really present for instead of staring at a machine in a daze-like state and taking in more subliminal messages than you’ll ever be aware of, telling you how you really need to buy this and that to feel good about yourself and be anybody.

Super-mom is telling you right now that you can feel good about yourself right now and you ARE somebody—right now.

To discover more about who you are, just try it. Turn it off—for two weeks…and see what happens.

“Television has changed the American child from an irresistible force to an immovable object.”

-Laurence J. Peter

“Vision enables you to glimpse into the future, to sense its hope and power, because you yourself are the means for that future’s creation.”

Sara Paddison

“Cherish your visions and your dreams. They are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.”

Napoleon Hill

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Super-mom Susan Tordella:

 

Every mom is a super mom because being a mom requires learning how to put other people’s needs ahead of our own, and management skills – of our emotions, of other people, and of a home.

My four kids were born in seven years by the time I was 29 years old. This was a blessing and a challenge. After having three children in three and a half years, I realized two things: to surrender to their needs because we were outnumbered; and to get help through parenting groups.

My children have given me so many gifts that I feel privileged to be their mother. Even though raising our kids required a lot of work, time and money, the rewards are worth it.

The most valuable gift they gave me was to learn patience, to slow down and wait for them to learn. They were so patient with me while I learned parenting skills – how to set reasonable boundaries with them and be kind, firm and consistent. The journey was never smooth or straight. How boring would that be!?

Even though sometimes motherhood was overwhelming, I cherish the days I spent doing things together as a family – cooking, eating and cleaning up together; going places – as simple as taking walks or going to the pool; doing crafts and chores – yes, even chores; reading and playing together on a regular day; supporting each other; laughing and telling stories.

I did my best to love and support my children through every stage. I strived to be the best mother possible, which meant forgiving myself and them for being human. My goal was that they grow up strong and independent, able to love and be loved, to make good decisions, and to want to have a relationship with me. After age 18, it’s optional to have a relationship with parents.

Mine have chosen to have relationships with me now that they’re ages 23 to 30. They are still the most important thing in my life. They have given me a focus – to raise them, to learn positive parenting skills, and to share what I learned with other parents.

While my kids were growing up, I attended parenting support groups and then led them – following the saying, “You teach what you most need to know.” In 2010 I wrote a book on how chores teach the priceless gift of self-discipline. Learning to manage my children and sustain a positive relationship with them required me to learn the skills of a CEO – with a kind heart, a generous wallet and coaching them to believe, “You can do it.”

We taught each other, “You can do it.” Now I teach parents “You can do it.” Raising them has been the most instructive, challenging, rewarding, and fun task of my life, with the longest lasting consequences. We do give our kids roots and wings. It requires careful tending of the soil, with water, sun, and community, followed by the perilous journey of learning to fly. What an adventure.

 

 

 

 

Susan Tordella

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K-12 Bullying awareness & prevention

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