For as long as I can remember, I’ve always thought and done things differently.  This trait, with which I walked onto this Earth, coupled with a desire to please others, which I learned on this Earth very early-on during a rough childhood, resulted in tension—and therefore, suffering.

It’s been my experience that many Super-people can relate to this.  You see and do things differently, but want to please others, and so tension and suffering results.

Sometimes—oftentimes—we aren’t even aware of the tension—the suffering.  We walk our path in a tremendous amount of pain but hide it from others—especially ourselves.  And it works—for a while.  Until it doesn’t anymore, and we get sick, get tired, get depressed, get angry, get bored, get confused, get lost.  Our spirit cannot stay quiet for long and so the symptoms begin.  The symptoms that beg—please listen, please see, please be aware, please be mindful.  And then, please make a shift. Toward joy and following your heart.  Toward your path.

I used to be in a relationship where many things I did, said, and thought were questioned, laughed off or at, or in the worst case, pathologized.  Sometimes it was “only” energetic—or a roll of the eyes.  But Sister, I felt it—and oh did my Spirit.  And like little pieces of confetti, it built up over time. 

In time, I knew in my heart that although I loved my partner very much and he loved me, this was no way to live.  In time, it became unbearable, and I felt as though I couldn’t breathe–felt as though I was living in a prison.

But I had created this prison—and so only I had the key out.

Yoga helped me to see the prison I had created and to take responsibility for it and my choices and decisions.  Yoga lifted the veil of illusion under which I had been living for years.

Yoga did not cause my marriage to end, as my ex-husband sometimes surmised at the beginning of the end of our union.  Yoga helped me to remember who I am, and to end the suffering I was enduring–and therefore causing others to endure–unnecessarily.

When we suffer, we cause others to suffer.  When we are in joy, we help others to feel joy.  It’s all energetic.  It’s all vibration.

There’s no right or wrong energy or vibration, just different ones.  As Abraham-hicks says “You cannot be a leader to those who are not vibrating at your level,” nor can you abide easily and lovingly beside those who are on a completely different energetic level. 

But how do you know?  What does vibration mean? How does it feel to spend the majority of your time around those who are not vibrating where you are? 

Exhausting.  Frustrating.  Annoying.  Like suffocating.  Like a prison.  Like anything but joy.

This is not about judgment.  This is not about placing blame.  This is about energy.  And the flow of the Universe.  If something isn’t flowing, it’s not on your path, so let it go.  Move on and bless and send light to those people, places, and things that you “leave behind.”

But you never really “leave anyone or anything behind.”  Everyone with whom you’ve ever had a relationship will always be a part of you.  No relationship ever ends.   Ever.  Not through death or divorce or just simply losing touch.

So celebrate the “different” or “rebellious” way about you and be proud of who you are and the path you walk.  Walk it with integrity, grace, and courage—speaking your truth with love and compassion.  And when things shift in your life (as they will because change and growth are inevitable)–when there isn’t an energetic fit anymore, send light and love and move on.  So that all beings on this planet can walk their paths with the passion and joy that we were all born to.