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Archive for October, 2009

“In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, But the gratefulness that makes us happy.”
 

Albert Clarke

“If you think you can, you can. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”

 

Mary Kay Ash



“Decide what you want .. believe you can have it, believe you deserve it, believe it’s possible for you.”
 

Rhonda Byrne


“You can turn off the sun, but I’m still gonna shine.”
 
Jason Mraz – The Remedy


Why is it always assumed that there’s a “down side?”

To EVERYTHING?

I hear this sometimes…frequently from the Press: ”Well, Taylor, what’s the down side?”

How about, “there is no down side?”

How about expecting things to work well and easily and not looking for something to go wrong?

How about utilizing deliberate creation? That is, using your thoughts and your words to create that which you want in your life.

And let me tell you Sister, you don’t want to be lookin’ for no down side when you’re creating. Just SEE what you want. Really see it. Daydream, think about it, write about it, talk about it, and let the other thoughts and fears go.

Most recently, I’ve seen the “down side” brought up around food–raw food specifically.

We opened The Prana Café on September 4th, 2009, to lines out the door.

When our chef moved here from San Francisco to head up the café, he sweetly warned Philippe and me “every restaurant loses money in year one. Prepare yourselves.”

I told him with confidence, because I SAW it my mind’s eye: “Prepare yourself, because we’ll have lines out the door from day one.”

He smiled at me kindly, but I could see it all over his face: “she is clueless, poor love. Just wait till she sees ‘the down side’ to opening a restaurant.”

Fast forward many months of construction, paint choices, and getting to know Newton politics, and we open to…drum roll please, lines out the door.

Our chef was not only stunned, he was overwhelmed and just a wee bit tired after 3 weeks of 20 hour days. No, he hadn’t been prepared. No matter how much I’d told him, his previous experience told him otherwise, and that is what he listened to.

What previous experience is telling you otherwise?

What is not happening in your life because you are stuck on what has happened in the past?

Now, The Prana Café is changing the way people think about raw food.  In the past, the press has frequently depicted raw foodists and/or the raw lifestyle as extreme, restrictive, and at worst, anorexic.  We are changing this stereotype.

We’re all about abundance and living the best life ever.  Ironically, we explain to the Press time and time again when they ask and oh girl, they do, there is no “down side” to this lifestyle.

People are always looking for ‘the downside’ because they think it is “inevitable.” They’ve been programmed that nothing can be ‘all that.’

But the raw food lifestyle can–and is.  And we’re here to teach people about it.

Philippe and I view ourselves as educators of incorporating more healthy and joyful living into your life through yoga; healthy, delicious foods; and deliberate creation.

Deliberate creation is quite simple. What you think creates your reality.  So as you change your thoughts to more positive ones, your life reflects that.  Immediately.  A yoga practice and eating the best food ever are tools to help you shift your thoughts.  It’s really easy. Just try it and see.

This is for everyone.  It’s all about starting where you are, and most certainly not about being perfect.  Perfection is a prison and we’re not into that.  Just start adding in, a little at a time—more healthy, delicious foods, more yoga, more good thoughts.

And watch what happens.

“Nothing I’ve ever done has given me more joys and rewards
than being a father to my children.”
 

-Bill Cosby

“To stand in your now, looking forward with deliberate intent and anticipation of what is to come, is infinitely more satisfying than to stand in your now, looking back, retracing your steps as to how you got where you are.”
 

Abraham-Hicks

“Real success comes in small portions day by day. You need to take pleasure in life’s daily little treasures.
It is the most important thing in measuring success.”
 

-Dennis Waitley

Happiness is like jam. You can’t spread it around with getting a little on yourself. 

“Joy is increased by spreading it to others.”
 

-Robert Murray McCheyne

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Super-mom Susan Tordella:

 

Every mom is a super mom because being a mom requires learning how to put other people’s needs ahead of our own, and management skills – of our emotions, of other people, and of a home.

My four kids were born in seven years by the time I was 29 years old. This was a blessing and a challenge. After having three children in three and a half years, I realized two things: to surrender to their needs because we were outnumbered; and to get help through parenting groups.

My children have given me so many gifts that I feel privileged to be their mother. Even though raising our kids required a lot of work, time and money, the rewards are worth it.

The most valuable gift they gave me was to learn patience, to slow down and wait for them to learn. They were so patient with me while I learned parenting skills – how to set reasonable boundaries with them and be kind, firm and consistent. The journey was never smooth or straight. How boring would that be!?

Even though sometimes motherhood was overwhelming, I cherish the days I spent doing things together as a family – cooking, eating and cleaning up together; going places – as simple as taking walks or going to the pool; doing crafts and chores – yes, even chores; reading and playing together on a regular day; supporting each other; laughing and telling stories.

I did my best to love and support my children through every stage. I strived to be the best mother possible, which meant forgiving myself and them for being human. My goal was that they grow up strong and independent, able to love and be loved, to make good decisions, and to want to have a relationship with me. After age 18, it’s optional to have a relationship with parents.

Mine have chosen to have relationships with me now that they’re ages 23 to 30. They are still the most important thing in my life. They have given me a focus – to raise them, to learn positive parenting skills, and to share what I learned with other parents.

While my kids were growing up, I attended parenting support groups and then led them – following the saying, “You teach what you most need to know.” In 2010 I wrote a book on how chores teach the priceless gift of self-discipline. Learning to manage my children and sustain a positive relationship with them required me to learn the skills of a CEO – with a kind heart, a generous wallet and coaching them to believe, “You can do it.”

We taught each other, “You can do it.” Now I teach parents “You can do it.” Raising them has been the most instructive, challenging, rewarding, and fun task of my life, with the longest lasting consequences. We do give our kids roots and wings. It requires careful tending of the soil, with water, sun, and community, followed by the perilous journey of learning to fly. What an adventure.

 

 

 

 

Susan Tordella

Egg-ducator

K-12 Bullying awareness & prevention

www.fowlbehavior.net