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“ Never feel, because you don’t have a PhD or other fancy degree, that you are less capable than the next person. The so-called gurus and experts don’t have all the answers and don’t always know what they’re talking about. Just remember how many stock EXPERTS told people to buy Yahoo at $150 a share.”

-Anita Foley

“‘Instinct leads, logic does but follow.”

-William James

“ I believe in intuition and inspiration; at times I feel certain I am right while not knowing the reason.”

-Albert Einstein

“Trust your own instinct. Your mistakes might as well be your own, instead of someone else’s.”

-Billy Wilder

I know there’s a movie by the same name (sans the “the”), but this story lacks the comedic bend of its predecessor.
Yet no other title would do.
We had been enjoying the best summer ever—traveling all over the place, spending time with family, frolicking in the sun, sand, and water in various New England states and our very favorite island.
But our travels and nonstop summer activity (and lack therefore of our 18-month-old’s usual structure and consistent nap and bedtimes) took its toll, and the moment we arrived home from our journey to Nantucket, Phoenix came down with his very first fever.
And it was a big one. The next day as the thermometer read 103.9 I dialed the on-call Pediatrician as my heart beat faster.
“I have three kids and I’m not neurotic” (as I admittedly was when I had one child—who isn’t?!) I told the Doctor, “but I’m scared.”
She assured me that a virus was going around with a high fever for four days and then a rash and said that the number on the thermometer was not so important as how my son was acting.
Phoenix was still somewhat himself so I was relieved.
The next day we happened to have a well visit scheduled with our pediatrician and while there she ordered some blood tests for Phoenix and I noticed as she kept a concerned and watchful eye on our little guy—through her forced smiles and cheerful voice.
Again, I was worried. I prayed and cried silent tears as I nursed Phoenix while we waited to see how he acted once the Tylenol kicked in.
Once I finished my last prayer, Phoenix popped his head up and started chirping away, back to his (somewhat) “usual” self.
I laughed in relief and we were on our way shortly thereafter.
The next day brought a call from our pediatrician advising us to go to the ER immediately to get an IV for Phoenix. His sodium and sodium chloride were low (he was dehydrated). She gave us the option of two hospitals: I chose one and my husband the other. I ignored my intuition (I know, I know) and agreed hesitantly to go to the “closer” and “more comfortable” neighborhood hospital since it was “only an IV.”
We waited to get into the ER in the freezing cold waiting room of this neighborhood hospital while huge TV’s blared, very sick looking people stared out into space all around us, and I hugged my toddler son close. He felt limp and very warm and again, I felt fear.
Once in the ER we waited again—for the nurse, for the doctor, for the IV, for the blood tests, for the XRAYS. Wait we did. Find answers we did not.
By nighttime it became clear that they wanted us to stay over night. I cried again out of exhaustion, fear, dread, and sheer resistance. I breathed all of the resistance out of my body and we made our way to our room and settled in for what would prove to be one of the worst nights of my life.
At around 1:00AM the Physician on call burst into our room and informed us that Phoenix needed a spinal tap.
“WHAT?!” was both Philippe and my reaction, as my son lay sleeping in my arms in the hospital bed.
“We are concerned that he was so ‘easy’ when he got his IV. He didn’t cry or put up a fight,” she continued.
I explained that I was nursing Phoenix as he’d gotten the IV; he was exhausted from 4 days with a high fever, no sleep, and little food; he had been off schedule for awhile due to traveling; he had roseola like my friends’ kids had had; and he had one of the most even, happy, laid back, and calm temperaments of any child I’d ever seen.
The Doctor, clearly not listening—or hearing–what I was saying, continued to insist that he needed a Spinal. We discussed the issue with her for a long time, and finally decided to consult with our on call pediatrician by phone. After 45 minutes of deliberating, discussing, fear-based possibilities being raised, and arguing, the decision was made: he would have a spinal tap.
I cried again—this time not silently—as my husband carried Phoenix away to get a test neither of us wanted him to have.
How could this be happening?
The things that the doctors had said—the “what ifs” and “he might have…” had pushed us past our point of sanity—of balance—and we agreed to a test that we both knew was unnecessary and very painful for our little guy.
Philippe had grilled all of the doctors about the efficacy of the Spinal, the possibility of staff infections, and their comfort in administering the test. Everyone assured us that it was “easier than giving an IV” and everything would be fine.
I couldn’t go in with Phoenix for the Spinal because they wouldn’t allow me to nurse him while they administered the test and so it would be more painful for him to see me if I couldn’t provide this comfort.
I waited in “our” room, watching DVD’s of “Sex and the City,” in an attempt to distract myself from the nightmare at hand.
When my baby came back to the room, flushed from crying, I noticed a rash on his neck and face.
“It’s roseola,” I told the Doctor. “He has roseola—look at this rash. The Spinal was unnecessary.”
“That rash is from his crying during the Spinal” she replied and walked out of the room.
An hour later she returned—the bearer of (more) bad news.
“I’m sorry, but we need to do the Spinal again. We didn’t get enough spinal fluid.”
This time there was no pause, no confusion, no fear, no lack of balance on my part: “NO,” I said firmly. “You are not going to give my son another spinal. The last one was unnecessary. He has roseola.”
“You can’t know that yet,” said the Doctor. “I think it’s best that we test him again, just in case…” and she continued with her list of “he could have this and that.”
“I can and do know that he has roseola, and I refuse to let you give him another Spinal. Thank you for respecting my decision.”
The doctor sensed my resolve and knew it was over—no more testing for Phoenix.
Within two hours Phoenix was full on covered with a rash and the same doctor giggled as she said, “Wish he’d had that rash before the Spinal because then we’d have known he didn’t need it.”
Using every ounce of yogic philosophy, asana, and meditation I’ve accrued over the years, I sent that young Doctor light, and shifted all of my attention and energy back to my son, who needed my energy and love to heal.
And heal he did–in record time. Once we were home from the hospital he was back to himself within minutes. Happy, sweet, laughing, and busy. I thanked the universe more times than I can describe and chalked the experience up to one of the most intense lessons I’ve had about a topic with which we are all familiar: always listen to your intuition. No matter who or what is telling you differently.
You know the answer, Super-mom. Listen within.

“The only really valuable thing is intuition.”

-Albert Einstein

“We must bring all parts of ourselves into Balance in order to feel centered. Our bodies need as much attention as our minds, which must be nurtured with as much care as our spirits.”
 

Rachel Schaeffer

“The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really wise.”?
 

Euripides ??

“Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.”
 

Robert Fulghum

“I always try to balance the light with the heavy — a few tears of human spirit in with the sequins and the fringes.”
 

Bette Midler

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Super-mom Kim Cherelli

 

WOW!! Supermom of the month.    I was shocked to say the least when Taylor mentioned she wanted me to be her super mom of the month.  Me?  I never thought there was anything super about me.  I’m as average as average is, nonetheless I was and am honored to be thought of.

 

I met Taylor a year ago during Teacher Training at Prana Power Yoga.  I was instantly drawn to her energy and knew I was in the right place.  I didn’t know why I decided to become a yoga instructor nor did I know what I was getting into.  You see prior to signing up for the 8 week teacher training I think I practiced yoga about a dozen times.  I woke up one day and said “ I think I’d like to be a yoga instructor”  I proceeded to ask my yoga instructor at BSC how one goes about becoming an instructor.  She told me about Prana and here I am a whole year later.  I wasn’t really sure what I was looking for other than the fact I was looking for “something” the something that yoga instructors have.  I’m learning every day and I’m a work in progress but this is a journey and I am excited to see where it takes me.  The teacher training was an emotional and beautiful experience.  As quickly as the thought popped into my head to become a yoga instructor the same happened for my understanding why.  I’m understanding I am where I am suppose to be right now at this moment.  Stress is not as prevalent as before and I’m understanding people a bit better.

 

So, a lil about me.  I’m a single mom of one 18 year old son.  I don’t consider myself any different than the next mother. I never found raising a child difficult because it came naturally to me. .  I raised him simply the way I wanted to be treated.  I always knew I wanted to be a mother. I was 24 when I found out I was pregnant and afraid to tell my mother.  I knew what she would say or better yet the look or her face would tell me how disappointed she was.  Most people know my situation and how my son was the result of an abusive relationship, however I wouldn’t have change a thing.  I had to go through that for my son to be born.  If I didn’t then he wouldn’t have been born and I can’t imagine my life without him.  People congratulate me for being a single mom  my son does too but I don’t think I deserve any special credit.  Putting aside all my heartache and struggles in my life, it’s nothing compared to what some are going through.  I do count my blessings and I feel blessed to have been given this gift of motherhood.  There are those who want children and can’t   I am so very thankful and I can’t say it enough…..It’s truly a blessing.

“where you are at this moment is where you are suppose to be”

Sending love and light to all

Kim Cherelli