Archive for June, 2009
A lot of people ask me how I can honestly have the best day ever, every day. I received this most recently from a Super-mom.com reader:
“Hi Taylor– I love your blog, and look forward to reading it every “Mumday”…my word for my day off from work spent with my daughter. I am curious about your path to this bright shiny lightness that you seem to radiate, and I would love if you would share some of this in your blog/posts. In general I am a happy person, but I would love to radiate more light more often. I think I speak for many out here who may not be ready to ask, but how do you honestly and truly have “the best day ever” every day? I guess I just don’t fully understand that. I understand that there is a choice with every situation with which we are faced in how we react to that situation. Do you have any tips for us on how to make a practice of making the brighter choice every time? And how to make every day– even those when we don’t feel great, when our patience isn’t at its strongest, etc.– the best day ever? Thanks!”
I am happy to share what I personally do to have the best day every day, but only after a brief disclaimer. I was never a fan of disclaimers–until I launched my blog on Mother’s Day, 2008, and noticed that no matter how many times I said “This is just my opinion/my path/what works for me—take what you want and leave the rest…I am not saying this is what you should do or that what you’re doing is “wrong,” because there is no “wrong.” I am not perfect nor would I ever profess to be, etc.” there would always be a reader who would tell me how my way wasn’t the only way and why was I suggesting that it was, and give me a list of why they couldn’t do what I suggested, etc.
So I would state, again, the intention of my website and blog and offer them—again—to take what they want and leave the rest and find their own path. I would remind them—again—that one of my strongest messages on Super-mom.com is to find what works for you and brings you joy and follow that—no matter what anyone else says. To always follow your heart, and you will always be on the right path.
So what follows is a formula that works for me, and has transformed my life in more ways than I can describe. This doesn’t mean that this formula will work for you (although it just might), or that I am asking you to try it. All I ever suggest is that you follow your heart and do what feels right to you. I’m just putting this out there because many people ask, and it has worked for me. So I’m sharing it with you in an open forum of Super-people who are supporting each other’s diverse lives and choices. There is no right or wrong and there is no perfect. That’s what rocks about The Universe.
Now on to the fun part. I’ve personally found that three basic components/tools are the key to me having the best day ever everyday:
1. Prana Power Yoga
2. Raw Vegan Foods
3. Deliberate Creation
“But how,” you ask, “can you do all of these daily? With all due respect, life is busy enough, I don’t need to add more to my plate, Supermom.”
And oh do I hear you Sister. Loud and clear.
But what I suggest (you may want to reread the “disclaimer” above now) is that I don’t have time not to do these three things daily. The time and energy that I put in comes back to me, in spades. In spades! Setting my intention and committing to these tools shifts my day, every day, pointing me in the right direction on my path. They are the key to flowing with life, trying easy, finding joy, being super efficient and focused, and having the best day ever everyday–no matter what the circumstances. No matter what the circumstances.
And oh, Super-people, just watch how “the circumstances” shift/change.
So let’s take it one component/tool at a time, and remember, you don’t have to spend hours on these components/tools every day…intention and consistency is everything. It’s what you do most of the time that matters. There are going to be days that flow well and days that don’t. So do what you can and start where you are. It’s about being real and doing your best, with breath.
Component/tool 1: Prana Power Yoga
Do you find it too challenging to get to a yoga studio daily or 5 times a week to practice? I hear ya. And I have the solution. Roll out your mat next to your bed before you go to sleep. Wake up a few minutes earlier (yes only minutes) and immediately get on your mat. Immediately! Don’t start with your daily routines because then it’s all over. I’ve been there.
Even just doing a rag doll and a downward dog for a few minutes with breath and intention will shift your day and move you toward the best day ever.
Beware though—you may end up practicing longer than you’d expected/planned because it feels so good, and just flows.
“But Taylor,” you say, “There’s so much going on in my life and things come up and—life happens. I just can’t get to it. I’ve tried and I just can’t.”
I get this Super-mom. I’m all about real life and making things (yoga, raw food, and deliberate creation) accessible. Everyone can do this. Everyone.
Yesterday I practiced in the pitch black in my bedroom while my two-year-old slept in our bed wheezing with croup and a fever, and 2 humidifiers and the shower filled the room with steam to ease his breathing, poor love.
The day before I practiced on the carpet in our playroom while my 2 year-old and 5 year-old watched Elmo on a projector on the wall (we don’t have TV and croup and a fever call for drastic measures—lol) and my 2 year-old asked me for “d’eau d’eau” (water) every four minutes or so.
These are just two of a myriad of examples of practices that did not look like the cover of “Yoga Journal” (although they should—Yoga Journal should get real and put some photos of real life yoga on their covers).
My husband and I purposefully put photos on our website of us practicing with our kids running about and around us. We had a photo shoot and our kids were with us, as always, and the photographer asked me if he should crop the kids out of the photos and I said “No way! That’s what our practice looks like at home and it’s real. Keep ‘em in.”
Component/tool 2: Raw Vegan Foods
Do you find it scary and unappealing to eat healthfully? Do you feel restricted even reading the words raw vegan? Can you even pronounce vegan? (LOL. It’s “vee-gun.”).
I hear ya Sister.
Again, it’s not about being perfect. And it’s definitely not about restriction. Restriction doesn’t work and is no fun. And if you’re going to have the best day ever every day, it’s all about fun (and ironically, you become even more effective and efficient when you’re having fun).
It’s about intention and doing your best with breath, as is Prana Power Yoga. It’s all connected. And that makes it easier. It all flows together.
So you set your intention: I want to have the best day ever everyday. You start where you are and begin to add in Superfoods—the best foods ever—to energize you and make you feel great. They also help you lose weight, if that’s one of your intentions.
I’m not going to get into the all of the details of how to add more living foods and Superfoods into your life because there is so much information on this topic. There’s a lot written on my site if you check out the Super Foods section, and I also list some good websites to check out if you choose to do some more research.
I can, however, give you a few fun examples of when I’ve stayed raw in the most unlikely places and situations—so you can have a good laugh, and when you’re in a similar situation, get imaginative.
I’ve been to Disneyworld several times since we went raw five years ago and managed to stay raw the whole time I’m in the Magic Kingdom, and have the best time ever. We pack our juicer, find a Wholefoods in Orlando (which rocks, btw, and has a huge array of pre-packaged raw foods from Glaser Farms out of Miami), and have lunch a few times at (and take out food from) a great Raw Food Restaurant in Orlando called Café 118. If you’re ever in Orlando, check it out, and definitely order the portobello lasagna and s’mores for dessert. Mmmmmmagic Kingdom!
We spent a week in Paris when Phoenix (our 2 year-old) was 5 months old and I managed to stay raw—with ease, in fact. I packed some dehydrated breads and crackers, our juicer, and some nuts and seeds and then ate lots of fresh fruit (readily available) and ordered big salads in cafés—sometimes 3 at one meal, much to the Parisian waiter’s surprise—and asked them in my broken French to please add lots of avocado to each salad.
Now on to the final component/tool—of the three components/tools that help me to have the best day ever everyday:
Component/tool 3: Deliberate Creation
Deliberate Creation, put simply, means that giving thought to anything is creation and giving deliberate thought to anything is deliberate creation, using the “law of attraction” (see Abraham-hicks.com for more info). The underlying principle here is that our thoughts and our words create our reality. Whatever I give attention to—wanted or unwanted—I am creating. The life I live is created by the story I tell. I enjoy with my action what I created with my thought–I don’t create with my action, but with my thought. So taking all of these principles into account, I have learned to relax and let the law of attraction do the organization and the managing, and then I spend my time doing the things that I love.
Does this mean I lie around all day and do nothing? Not at all. I believe in massive action–but it’s all things that I love, and so none of it feels like “work.” And it all flows beautifully and easily.
Sound too good to be true? It’s not Sister. It has taken time and practice to get to this place of loving everything that I do and everyone in my life and (just about) all of the situations I draw into my life. It takes time and practice, but the practice is fun. And the practice continues—day to day.
I believe that in any situation, I always have a choice. I have a choice on what to focus my mind. So it’s all about the power of the focus of my mind.
Let’s face it, in any situation, you can focus on the stuff that’s great or the stuff that’s not. Some call this denial. I call it focusing on what I want to see, and thereby creating the future that I want.
Believe me, I spent years of my life doing otherwise. I spent years of my life angry, afraid, and talking and writing about it—a lot. This Super-mom can talk!
What I learned during those times was that whatever I put out—came back to me, in spades. In spades! This was not a good thing at the time—taking into account what I was putting out into the Universe.
Now there are times when we need to grieve and mourn (for example, after losing a baby, as I did on May 5, 2009—please see “The Loss” in the archives) and the only way out is through.
But there are also many times when we have a choice on what to focus—on what to talk about—on what to think about.
Today I took my 11 year-old daughter to a café in our neighborhood for a surprise breakfast before school. The tables were very close in the café and so we couldn’t help but hear the women’s conversation sitting at the table next to us. They were going on and on about very negative things. Some call it gossip. The energy/aura from that table was quite dark. Even my 11 year-old felt it.
And this was their “fun time”–their “girl time” together. What were they creating by saying this about that friend and that about this child? What kind of day were they setting up for themselves? How would their hearts feel after they finished that mochachino?
It took me awhile to learn not to gossip. And even longer for my friends to get used to me not joining in. I still occasionally get drawn into the practice of gossip, but feel the results immediately after doing so and it’s yet another reminder to stay on my path.
Remember, no one is perfect (least of all me) and it’s what we do most of the time that matters. We all stumble and/or fall at times–and we learn to be gentle with ourselves, to get up, and try again. The Universe will always give us contrast—to show us what it is that we don’t want in our lives, so that we can create what we do want.
So how do I stay on the path of positive thinking/manifesting in a world that can be super negative?
It’s all about choices. I chose to give up watching TV 12 years ago and I’ve never looked back. I do watch movies occasionally, but I’m super choosy about what they are about and what they focus on. Not watching TV really helped me to decrease the amount of negative messages infiltrating my brain (many unconsciously).
I choose to write down quotes that I love—uplifting, positive quotes that I read, hear, or come up with myself—and read them as often as possible. They are all over my house! At my computer, on my kitchen counter tops, next to my toothbrush, and in front of my yoga mat when I practice at home. Whenever and wherever possible I am putting positive messages into my brain.
I am always watching my mind and training it. Much like I trained my body to hit a tennis ball 30 years ago at Nick Bollettieri’s Tennis Academy. It just takes practice.
So that’s what I do. Practice. Every day. All day. Using the three tools that I’ve described.
And truth be told, it’s way more fun to practice having the best day ever than to practice hitting backhands.
**If you’d like to learn more about how to create the best life ever and have the best day ever everyday, Super-mom Taylor is available for consultation. Please contact Michael@pranapoweryoga.com to set up an appointment.**
W. Clement Stone
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Super-Mom Michelle Ormes:
First, let me say that I think every mother is a super-mom, although we rarely give ourselves credit for our daily heroics. We’re more likely to think about what we didn’t get done, what we’d like to do better, how our mommy friends must have it more together than we do, and on and on. The self-imposed guilt and judgment are the regular stuff of my meditation and reflection on and off the mat. But that’s a topic for another time.
I’m the very grateful mother of two boys (Owen, 9 and Dani, 7) who keep me hopping, somewhat hip and laughing. Who knew, at 44, that I’d know (and could discuss with great interest) the intricacies of Lego Ninjago, use “Kung Fu Panda” quotes in my yoga classes and enjoy the antics of Greg Heffley. But that’s me. I love being a mom and I LOVE being a mom of boys. Boys, with their boundless energy, curiosity, uncontrollable need to move and their cuddly sweetness, are the best! There’s truly no greater purpose in my life than to help my boys have the confidence to be happy in their own skin and to live a life filled with gratitude and compassion.
My definition of what a super-mom is has changed significantly in the past year. Until the middle of 2012, I defined it by my ability to balance a demanding corporate career with motherhood – I was proud of keeping all the balls in the air and not dropping any. I would marvel at all that I could accomplish before 6am. But that life left me alternately feeling accomplished at my ability “to do it all” and feeling unfulfilled and empty. I felt like no one was getting the best of me; my work, my husband, my kids.
So, after years of thinking about it and feeling “not so super”, I quit my job. I followed my heart and took a huge leap of faith. I got my yoga teaching certification. I took the summer off and played with my kids. I stopped rushing. I’m nicer (so my husband says . I pick my kids from school. I have far less money but the work I do now actually helps people. And now I feel like everyone is getting the best of me (or so much more than they ever got before).
So my definition of super-mom now is being someone who is following her path, setting an example for risk taking and listening to her heart and intuition. Now, I’m completely present in ways I never was before . I am grateful beyond words for having the opportunity to take this chance (not everyone can) and I don’t take a second of it for granted. But here’s what I’m learning – the way to be the best mom is to be true to who and what I am. The universe will show me the way. If I can teach that to my kids – then I really will be super.
- Parenting with Integrity
- No Adults Leave Their Crusts on the Plate
- The Universe Loves Metaphors
- Yelling At Your Kids
- From the Mouths of Babes Part 12
- December 2013
- November 2013
- October 2013
- September 2013
- August 2013
- July 2013
- June 2013
- May 2013
- April 2013
- March 2013
- February 2013
- January 2013
- December 2012
- November 2012
- October 2012
- September 2012
- August 2012
- July 2012
- June 2012
- May 2012
- April 2012
- March 2012
- February 2012
- January 2012
- December 2011
- November 2011
- October 2011
- September 2011
- August 2011
- July 2011
- June 2011
- May 2011
- April 2011
- March 2011
- February 2011
- January 2011
- December 2010
- November 2010
- October 2010
- September 2010
- August 2010
- July 2010
- June 2010
- May 2010
- April 2010
- March 2010
- February 2010
- January 2010
- December 2009
- November 2009
- October 2009
- September 2009
- August 2009
- July 2009
- June 2009
- May 2009
- April 2009
- March 2009
- February 2009
- January 2009
- December 2008
- November 2008
- October 2008
- September 2008
- August 2008
- July 2008
- June 2008
- May 2008