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Archive for January, 2009

Get excited and enthusiastic about you own dream. This excitement is like a forest fire – you can smell it, taste it, and see it from a mile away.
 

Denis Waitley

Making a decision to have a child–it’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.

 

Elizabeth Stone


Life is always a rich and steady time when you are waiting for something to happen or to hatch.

 

E.B. White, Charlotte’s Web


I think I’m pregnant with my fourth child.  I haven’t taken the test yet because I want to document this oh-so-familiar feeling.  What I’ve experienced many times before.  Because I know that many Super-people out there have experienced the same thing, will relate, and perhaps get some support from my words and the Super-mom.com community (which at this point is about four hundred readers a day—many of whom are not Moms).

 

Here’s the drill.  Philippe and I set our intention to have another baby.  We visualize, and we “try.” 

 

Then I am convinced that I’m pregnant.  I feel queasy, tired, starving, bloated, and well, just pregnant.  My breasts are sore.  I feel “different.”  Smells of certain foods begin to bother me.

 

I know I am.  I KNOW I am!!  I get really excited.  I wait.  And I wait. 

 

And after two weeks, I do the test.

 

And there it is—the stick.  That little piece of plastic that holds the answer to a dream and manifestation come true or a sad pit in my stomach that’s difficult to put into words.

 

It’s negative. 

 

I don’t believe it. 

 

“I’ve tested too early,” I assure myself. 

 

I wait a few more days, and I test again.

 

For all of my three children I’ve gotten false negatives–negative pregnancy tests because I tested “too early.”  I put quotation marks around “too early” because although I wait the “standard” two weeks, my body needs about three to give me the thumbs up.

 

But also for every one of my three children, I’ve gotten “true negatives”—negative pregnancy tests when I truly thought—I KNEW—I was pregnant, but wasn’t. 

 

I have talked to countless Super-moms about this syndrome and we all concur:  there is something that happens the month or two before you actually conceive which emulates pregnancy.  The symptoms are real and palpable. 

 

My friend Mary, an energy healer and acupuncturist (listed in my top picks), swears that this is the body and spirit’s way of preparing to create a life. 

 

It is, after all, the most important creation there is.  Face it, it’s cool to create other stuff—a yoga studio, a book, a restaurant, a computer program, a website, a film, a batch of raw muffins, an article, a beautiful space to live in, a garden, an academic degree, etc.

 

The list is endless of what we can create!  And that in and of itself is amazing and wondrous.  Ponder that for just a moment:  the list of what you and I can create is limited only by our minds. 

 

But nothing compares to creating new life.  It’s a miracle, Sisters. 

 

Doesn’t it make sense that there is some “more” preparation in order?  More than just “trying” and conceiving–possibly only minutes later?  

 

What other action in your life can shift your life irrevocably in one instant—forever?  Doesn’t it make sense that The Universe sets it up so that the path is cleared a bit—prepared energetically so to speak–before this profound shift happens?

 

But what about those who never have this experience—feeling they are pregnant before they actually are?  Are they not as “in tune” with their bodies and spirits as those who do have this experience? 

 

Or is this not real—is it only that some Super-people (myself included) create psychosomatic symptomatology to emulate pregnancy because we want it so much. 

 

It’s been documented many a time—the woman who visits her Doc swearing she’s pregnant–with a swollen belly and many symptoms (most of which are not enjoyable) to prove it.  But there’s no baby.

 

So lay it on us, Super-people.  Has this happened to you?  Does any of this sound vaguely or perhaps intimately familiar?  If so, what’s your take on it?

 

Now here goes the test…Super-mom style.

 

And the stick is…NEGATIVE.

 

I feel surprised–but not really.


I guess a part of me knew I wasn’t pregnant, even though I really felt I was.

 

I know many of you can relate to these feelings of momentary insanity.

 

Many, many hours on my yoga mat and studying deliberate creation (Abraham-hicks.com) comes in handy now, because I actually feel disappointed and sad for only a moment. 

 

Then I am back into excited/anticipation mode.

 

I have faith and I know that our fourth baby is coming, and will come at the perfect time.

 

Dakota Summer Wells:  ETA:  unknown. 

 

Stay tuned.

A grand adventure is about to begin.
 

– Winnie the Pooh


“People often want to make enlightenment about finding some process and moving through the process that has been pre-described. But true enlightenment is moving to the rhythm of the internal inspiration that is coming in response to the individual desire. Enlightenment is about allowing my Connection to the Source that is me for the fulfillment of the things that I have individually defined here in my time-space-reality. That’s as good as it gets!”

-Abraham

“Enlightenment means literally aligning to the Energy of my Source. And genius is only about focusing. Law of Attraction takes care of everything else.”

-Abraham

“The Universe knows all things and is responding to the vibration that you are sending. When you are sending your vibration on purpose, you are orchestrating what the Universe is aligning for you.”

-Abraham

“We are all Vibrational Beings. You’re like a receiving mechanism that when you set your tuner to the station, you’re going to hear what’s playing. Whatever you are focused upon is the way you set your tuner, and when you focus there for as little as 17 seconds, you activate that vibration within you. Once you activate a vibration within you, Law of Attraction begins responding to that vibration, and you’re off and running–whether it’s something wanted or unwanted.”

-Abraham

“Anything you desire, the Universe can find a way to let it happen. It must be, for this is a joy-based Universe. And so, as you watch children playing in the mud and having great joy in it, you might not enjoy playing in the mud, but they do. And so, there’s somebody enjoying doing something you don’t want to do. And that pretty much applies to everything.”

-Abraham

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Super-mom Susan Tordella:

 

Every mom is a super mom because being a mom requires learning how to put other people’s needs ahead of our own, and management skills – of our emotions, of other people, and of a home.

My four kids were born in seven years by the time I was 29 years old. This was a blessing and a challenge. After having three children in three and a half years, I realized two things: to surrender to their needs because we were outnumbered; and to get help through parenting groups.

My children have given me so many gifts that I feel privileged to be their mother. Even though raising our kids required a lot of work, time and money, the rewards are worth it.

The most valuable gift they gave me was to learn patience, to slow down and wait for them to learn. They were so patient with me while I learned parenting skills – how to set reasonable boundaries with them and be kind, firm and consistent. The journey was never smooth or straight. How boring would that be!?

Even though sometimes motherhood was overwhelming, I cherish the days I spent doing things together as a family – cooking, eating and cleaning up together; going places – as simple as taking walks or going to the pool; doing crafts and chores – yes, even chores; reading and playing together on a regular day; supporting each other; laughing and telling stories.

I did my best to love and support my children through every stage. I strived to be the best mother possible, which meant forgiving myself and them for being human. My goal was that they grow up strong and independent, able to love and be loved, to make good decisions, and to want to have a relationship with me. After age 18, it’s optional to have a relationship with parents.

Mine have chosen to have relationships with me now that they’re ages 23 to 30. They are still the most important thing in my life. They have given me a focus – to raise them, to learn positive parenting skills, and to share what I learned with other parents.

While my kids were growing up, I attended parenting support groups and then led them – following the saying, “You teach what you most need to know.” In 2010 I wrote a book on how chores teach the priceless gift of self-discipline. Learning to manage my children and sustain a positive relationship with them required me to learn the skills of a CEO – with a kind heart, a generous wallet and coaching them to believe, “You can do it.”

We taught each other, “You can do it.” Now I teach parents “You can do it.” Raising them has been the most instructive, challenging, rewarding, and fun task of my life, with the longest lasting consequences. We do give our kids roots and wings. It requires careful tending of the soil, with water, sun, and community, followed by the perilous journey of learning to fly. What an adventure.

 

 

 

 

Susan Tordella

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