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“And we’ll celebrate, with three Om’s.”
I start my classes like this these days, and I end them celebrating with three Om’s as well.

I finally understand what the world “celebrate” means. For years, when people would say “You have to celebrate!!” or “Time to celebrate!!” I really had no idea what they were talking about. I had no idea actually how to do that—to “celebrate.”

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“I choose to allow all of my experiences to be peaceful, loving, and joyful.”
-Louise Hay

To avoid criticism: say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.

It should be easy and flow. It should flow beautifully and easily.

“To be a great champion, you must believe that you are the best. If you’re not, pretend that you are.”
-Muhammad Ali

I am in my power. My prana* flows through my body.
*prana=life force

If you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it.

I release all restrictions and I allow myself to be me.

When I was little, my legs were just my legs. I never thought about them. My arms were just my arms. They helped me hit a tennis ball, to win a match. I never thought about whether they were toned, thin, whether they fit into the “right” size of clothing.

I never thought about food, either. Except for the habitual question: “Mom, what’s for dinner?” food wouldn’t cross my mind, unless the Good Humor ice cream truck was driving down my street in Lake Bluff, Illinois.

How is it that our culture has become so obsessed with food, so hyper-aware of our physical bodies?

Since our body is really just “the home of our spirit,” why do we obsess so about it and what we put into it? And how can we stop?

The dichotomy is astounding: droves of people mindlessly, automatically and obsessively shoveling food into their mouths on a regular basis, not paying attention—not listening to what their bodies are telling them in the form of fatigue, illness, pain, depression, anxiety (“It’s 12:00? Time to eat!!”) Vs. the epidemic of eating disorders or “eating concerns” as we so politically correctly called them at Harvard University, where I worked as a doctoral candidate therapist-in-training.

Most of us have lost our ability to judge real hunger, and to feed it.

A world full of over-processed, non-nutrient dense “food” products has caused our culture to become over-fed and undernourished. People are full–and starving. Starving for real nutrients, real love, and light.

Our bodies are starving for nourishment, as they consume hundreds of pounds of sugar, additives, and chemicals every year, all in the name of “health food.” Have you seen it? We now have “organic junk food,” in shiny, pretty packages that call it “healthy.” “Well, it’s organic!! It must be healthy!!” “I bought it at Wholefoods; it must be good for me.” People want to be healthy and want to feel good, but they are lost.

And it’s no wonder. A culture and government that pushes junk food, meat and dairy products, pharmaceutical consumption and medical procedures doesn’t help.

And if you choose to think and live “outside the box” or cultural programming, you’re labeled “weird.”

Where did it all go wrong?

Bill Cosby once said “I don’t know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”

I can’t pinpoint where or how it all went wrong, but I can say how it shifted—“went right” for me.

Four words: yoga and raw food.

With a daily yoga practice and a vegan raw food lifestyle, the mystery is solved, and life is good.

I have a ton of energy, feel happy pretty much all the time, feel and look ten years younger than when I was eating “healthy” cooked foods from health food stores and working out at the gym, need less sleep, have more clarity, focus, and patience, and am a better parent, wife, and teacher.

I am better able to be of service–to my family, my yoga students, my teaching staff, the person on the street who needs help, the world.

Many people ask me: “Is it really that simple?”

Yes, it is.

**For more information on the raw food lifestyle, visit the following websites, check out these suggested books, and stay tuned for more articles from Taylor with hints on how to feel the best ever!!**

Websites:

Books:

  • Living on Live Foods – Alissa Cohen alissacohen.com
  • Eating for Beauty – David wolfe rawfood.com
  • Eating in the Raw – Carol Alt rawfood.com or ecookbooks.com
  • Feeling Good Food – Susie Miller rawfood.com
  • Green for Life – Victoria Boutenko rawfood.com
  • Raw Food Real World – Matthew Kenney ecookbooks.com
  • Rawsome!! – Brigitte Mars rawfood.com
  • The Raw Food Detox Diet – Natalia Rose rawfood.com or ecookbooks.com
  • Your behavior is a reflection of what you truly believe.

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    Super-mom Susan Tordella:

     

    Every mom is a super mom because being a mom requires learning how to put other people’s needs ahead of our own, and management skills – of our emotions, of other people, and of a home.

    My four kids were born in seven years by the time I was 29 years old. This was a blessing and a challenge. After having three children in three and a half years, I realized two things: to surrender to their needs because we were outnumbered; and to get help through parenting groups.

    My children have given me so many gifts that I feel privileged to be their mother. Even though raising our kids required a lot of work, time and money, the rewards are worth it.

    The most valuable gift they gave me was to learn patience, to slow down and wait for them to learn. They were so patient with me while I learned parenting skills – how to set reasonable boundaries with them and be kind, firm and consistent. The journey was never smooth or straight. How boring would that be!?

    Even though sometimes motherhood was overwhelming, I cherish the days I spent doing things together as a family – cooking, eating and cleaning up together; going places – as simple as taking walks or going to the pool; doing crafts and chores – yes, even chores; reading and playing together on a regular day; supporting each other; laughing and telling stories.

    I did my best to love and support my children through every stage. I strived to be the best mother possible, which meant forgiving myself and them for being human. My goal was that they grow up strong and independent, able to love and be loved, to make good decisions, and to want to have a relationship with me. After age 18, it’s optional to have a relationship with parents.

    Mine have chosen to have relationships with me now that they’re ages 23 to 30. They are still the most important thing in my life. They have given me a focus – to raise them, to learn positive parenting skills, and to share what I learned with other parents.

    While my kids were growing up, I attended parenting support groups and then led them – following the saying, “You teach what you most need to know.” In 2010 I wrote a book on how chores teach the priceless gift of self-discipline. Learning to manage my children and sustain a positive relationship with them required me to learn the skills of a CEO – with a kind heart, a generous wallet and coaching them to believe, “You can do it.”

    We taught each other, “You can do it.” Now I teach parents “You can do it.” Raising them has been the most instructive, challenging, rewarding, and fun task of my life, with the longest lasting consequences. We do give our kids roots and wings. It requires careful tending of the soil, with water, sun, and community, followed by the perilous journey of learning to fly. What an adventure.

     

     

     

     

    Susan Tordella

    Egg-ducator

    K-12 Bullying awareness & prevention

    www.fowlbehavior.net